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[–]MisandryFTW 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I mean don't you know that "lesbian" is really just a porn category designed to arouse men, and lesbians are just women who are playing hard to get or saving themselves for the right penis? /s

I stopped going to the local gay bar because I kept getting men coming up to my girlfriend and I asking for threesomes or one creepy guy trying to force me to give him a blowjob in the parking lot while I was having an asthma attack and using my inhaler. I know bisexuals exist, but the gay bar is the one place you shouldn't hit on opposite sex folks, especially if they're clearly there with someone already. They have the entire world to hit on same sex folks. I told the blowjob guy he should go inside and ask literally any man for a blowjob and he got offended and said, "I ain't a [slur for gay men]!" I just can't anymore.

[–]florasis 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Did you denounce him to someone. That's a sexual assault and happening in a gay bar. Fucking absurd. I know the lesbian fetish and the misogyny, but your experience with men is really mind blowing.

[–]MisandryFTW 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think maybe because I'm not good with boundaries and I used to be very conventionally attractive when I was younger in a way that predators are into. Tiny, long blonde hair, giant tits, looked young for my age, short and thin. I also dressed very feminine because I would get beaten and yelled at otherwise. I've noticed since I've gained weight, gotten older, started dressing more butch, and learned to be more assertive I've had almost zero problems with men. My girlfriend is tall and butch and assertive and she was almost never harassed. I've also experimented and if I go for a walk with all my skin covered but I'm wearing a long skirt I get catcalled, even though you can't see my body at all, but if I wear shorts or pants it's very unlikely.

Weirdly even women I didn't know would just start playing with my hair from behind without introducing themselves first. I would joke to my friends that it happened every time in the Trader Joe's cereal aisle and they're like, "yeah sure" but then we went to TJs and it happened in front of people twice. Middle aged women just start playing with my hair. One thing that's great about Covid is the 6 foot rule. My hair used to be down to almost my knees and dyed rainbow, so I was probably asking for it or something.

[–]florasis 8 insightful - 4 fun8 insightful - 3 fun9 insightful - 4 fun -  (0 children)

Ah, well, giant tits,blonde and very feminine, remind me of a porn actress. Maybe understand why you attracted so many males lol

[–]BigMommyMilkers 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am very good at boundaries and being aggressive towards creepy men but it can still be a challenge at times. At 5ft6 and skinny even the lower % of the average male is capable of overpowering you and they know it, most of the time they do back off but occasionally they'll push harder and to be honest it's quite intimidating because you know this person can physically overpower you and there's not much you can do about it. I am always armed for this reason.