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[–]VioletRemi 14 insightful - 4 fun14 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 4 fun -  (3 children)

Not sure where you are seeing such things. I only heard it or saw it being said by men or by straight (sometimes bisexual) women. And, well, why should you care about opinion of men about your sexuality and sexual life, if you are lesbian and there no place for men in there? :D

Especially if you take into consideration that majority of men and straight women (and many bisexual women who are leadning to straight relationship) are thinking that real sex is not real sex because there no penises involved (that is one of reasons why everyone thinks there always strapon or dildo in lesbian sex, lol). And that is why there are so many "couple is searching lesbian for threesome" in dating apps, it is because if woman sleeps with his wife - it is "not cheating, because there no real sex between them", but if wife sleeps with man or husband sleeps with woman or husband sleeps with man are all "cheating". And lets not forget about all those queer theorists and "transbians" who are pushing "girldicks" on lesbians and saying that "being lesbian is transphobia, lesbians must sleep with dicks or they are transphobes".

Do not listen to any of that, that all is just pure homophobia and attempts of rape. Do not take any of their words seriously, as their words are coming from hate or desire.

On the other hand more often I saw opposite story in lesbian communities themselves. Non-goldstar lesbians were ashamed by few elitist gold stars - we even had two of such persons in this very sub with them saying stuff like "you are not true lesbian if you ever slept with man or was raped, you are bisexual at best, go from here to your precious men" (one of them spammed my DM's for a week, until I blocked her), gladly they are pretty silent (or maybe banned by mods) nowadays. Most gold star lesbians are cool women, tho, and not elitists. And in this sub (or TL?) was one young teen lesbian who had problem with elitist too - she was raped, and was afraid to share that with her girlfriend, as girlfriend was "I will date only other gold star". They were only 16-17 years old, so maybe that is just teen maximalism.

Anyways, what I am saying is that - do not listen to men about your sexuality, and do not be elitist yourself. And everything will be cool.

And it enrages me that men have the gall to say that lesbians secretly like them.

I think it is because of porn popularized lesbians, and many bisexual women are saying "I am lesbian, but I will sleep with you, as you are so good man". Tag "lesbian" was most popular porn tag in the world in last few years.

And second reason is "fragile male ego" - they just can't believe they are rejected and that women can be fine without them at all.

[–]florasis 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Totally perfectly said

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