you are viewing a single comment's thread.

view the rest of the comments →

[–]votkriscan 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

While this is an awkward situation, this matter shouldn't be judged on you being a lesbian. Since we live in a patriarchal world, there is something awful that happens a lot of the time, which is, women being sexually assaulted by men. However, how many of the straight women who were sexually assaulted cut off all men out of their lives, even platonic and family relationships? Very rarely. They might not date men for awhile or even for a long time, but they completely keep other men that have nothing to do with dating and which they feel they could trust in their lives. And gasp! Some will even tell you that their sexual assault doesn't represent the entirety of all men (#notallmen).

So if your friend is #alllesbians, there is certainly a double-standard going on here. That said, everyone has a right to not be in a human relationship with someone, so there is nothing much you can do if she rejects you but to gracefully accept it. If her friendship is that important to you, you can stay closeted about your orientation.

But don't fret over it. You are just trying to be a genuinely supportive friend who wants to be there.

[–]lmaonope333[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I dont think it would be a double standard, in the community where I come from, males and females do not socially interact unless they're close relatives or dating for the purpose of marriage. However I would still be hurt of she'd suspect me of being attracted to her, as I've never seen her as anything other than a friend