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[–]begonia_skies 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing, especially since it does sound like you do in fact have interests that men tend to share. I don't have an issue with men, I have friendships with men but none of them are deep friendships by any means. My closest and deepest friendships are all with women. No, I don't "hate men" I just find straight men tend to be deeply problematic frequently, especially related to lesbian topics. I never seem to be taken seriously by them or they believe since we are friends they can ask me deeply invasive and inappropriate questions. It's not my job to help men grow (despite what every movie storyline depicts), and I just don't know that straight men can ever really overcome the "lesbians are a fetish" or women just deep down "need a good dick" belief.

I actually connect with gay men even less than with straight men. Generally, I don't have much in common with gay men and you can hate me for saying it, but I personally find a lot of gay men far more openly misogynistic than straight men, at least the ones I have encountered. The gay men I know all seem to hold the belief that women just aren't as good at the things they are, like decorating, fashion, cooking, etc. And a lot of gay men I know have this weird obsession with drag that just doesn't sit well with me (I won't bore you with my belief that drag is men mocking women).

I don't think anyone really cares if you have a lot of male friends and I'm glad you seem to have had mostly positive experiences.

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I generally relate a lot less to gay men too, even though some of the sweetest guys I have met have been gay men. This was in high school and college before the world crushed us. Lol.

Sadly lots of gay boys were just sweeties who were ostracized and treated like garbage for not being “man” enough, and I think that’s where some of that “fuck you” attitude directed at women is from. It seems like many of them don’t care enough to examine their behaviour.