What turns you on? (NSFW) (not porn)

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I’m not referring to what attracts you to someone's personality (we discussed that in a previous post), but what turns you on sexually. I listed a few things that came to mind.

Her lust (and trust)

When a woman shows her lust, when she has the courage to do that (because let’s face it we are taught not to) and takes action. Just feeling her passion and desire is intoxicating. When there is no holding back, just lust and wanting.

Kissing

Kissing in combination with light biting really is a huge turn on for me.

Neck kissing. I can go from 0 to 100 in a few seconds if she kisses my neck. (Feeling her breath on my neck is sufficient to make me me dizzy).

Touching

Put your hands anywhere on me and I’m happy:)

Grinding. When she pushes her body into mine, when her groin presses against my thigh I lose what little cool I have.

Moaning

That soft moaning in the beginning of a make out session gives me goosebumps.

Masturbation

When she allows you to watch her masturbate. It’s not only incredible arousing but also educational.

A lot more could be added to the list, but my brain is beginning to shut down...

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[–]VioletRemi 17 insightful - 8 fun17 insightful - 7 fun18 insightful - 8 fun -  (0 children)

Until recently I did not know, that just chatting with similar-minded person could turn me on really hard. I guess such people are just too rare (it is the first lesbian I know who is like that).

Neck kissing. I can go from 0 to 100 in a few seconds if she kisses my neck.

I have the same with ears. If she kisses or slightly bites my ears, I will become super hot in a seconds, and if she continues, I will just melt down or explode, lol.

[–][deleted] 17 insightful - 4 fun17 insightful - 3 fun18 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

I’ve always had a high sex drive so it could be almost anything. Most days just waking up makes it go time. It doesn’t help that my wife really likes to wear deep v neck tops and works hard to keep the girls high and tight. Over the last week I’ve discovered that listening to her talk in meetings really does it for me, there’s something about hearing her be so stern and in total control of her world that has made her late coming back from lunch a few times recently.

[–][deleted] 14 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 0 fun15 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You are a lucky lady:)

Yes, seeing someone in their professional mode is a bit of a turn on.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I do live a very blessed life lol

[–][deleted] 15 insightful - 3 fun15 insightful - 2 fun16 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

You pretty much said a lot with regards to turn one haha. Neck kissing is an absolute on my list as well, same with masturbation and light biting during a make out session. Ugh kissing is the greatest foreplay for me, thinking about it always does the trick to make me feel hot. Breast biting/sucking/kissing is always a turn on, along with biting at whatever I’m wearing cause she wants to eat me out.

[–][deleted] 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am absolutely weak to all things thigh-related. Whether the thighs in question are mine or someone else's that zone is just extremely sensual for me.

[–]begonia_skies 16 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 0 fun17 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

In addition to everyone else, I think talking/being vocal can be very sexy. There is obviously a line where it can turn into weird and distracting and depends on the level of intimacy, but moaning and a well-timed "spread your legs for me" - yes, please.

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    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    This is cute. Being in love, me too!

    [–][deleted] 12 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 5 fun13 insightful - 6 fun -  (9 children)

    Wrestling with a partner. Not the actual sport, but the fun kind; in bed trying to pin my lover. I love a good power struggle, especially where I come out on top. ;)

    Partners who take, and enjoy, and give instruction; especially when she will masturbate for me. I agree with you 100%.

    Sweating, flushing, vascularity, especially in her hands and forearms.

    Straddling her lap and kissing her.

    Doing whatever turns her on the most and not letting her touch until she’s near-rabid. Looooool.

    Her in sweats and a tanktop, no bra. Being a creeper and seeing what she feels like through her sweatpants/tank.

    Being a creeper while she’s on the phone/ cooking/ computering/ reading/ in the shower.

    Running my hands through her hair while kissing. Sometimes pulling a little.

    Hugs from behind. Other stuff from behind. Behinds, in general.

    Getting smacked on the ass (hands only because it’s more personal, delivering my own ass-smacks.

    Dirty talk, but not porn-style.

    [–][deleted] 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (7 children)

    Subtle dirty talk and ass smacking is what dream are made of. I still thank the universe for yoga pants on almost a daily basis.

    [–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

    I used to try and not be a creeper about buttcheeks but I had to just let that go. Too many butts to police myself.

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 2 fun4 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

    I take great pride in my ass. I’ve worked hard for it. Never minded strangers policing it lol

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

    So it’s a smackable ass? Like, will not cause hand injury?

    [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 3 fun4 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

    No I’m not in my 20’s anymore lol

    Edit because it at one point was a hand breaker, now it’s just smackable

    [–][deleted] 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

    Hand-breaker would be a bummer (pun intended).

    [–][deleted] 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    You two sometimes 👀👀

    [–][deleted] 2 insightful - 3 fun2 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    Who would want one? Takes so much joy out of life. It’s not even really grab a squeeze worthy if it’s to hard.

    [–][deleted] 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    No bra is a good bra. When you can see the contours of her breasts under the fabric and they move when she moves.

    Nerdy talk is dirty talk to me. Science talk makes me warm and tingly.

    [–]Ricky_Ticky 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

    Looking into her seductive eyes and feeling her breasts over her clothes immediately puts me in a trance-like state

    [–]SailorMoon2020 11 insightful - 3 fun11 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 3 fun -  (0 children)

    I honestly did not want to be the weird one...although I don't think it's too weird.

    For me, I like having my chin stroked. Having my stomach rubbed. Also women performers specifically dancers and theatre actresses. Watching a woman on stage is divine. And a woman's laughter. These are my four mellow turn ons.

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      [–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

      The wet. A lesbian favourite. Classic sexy

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        [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

        I completely agree! Plus you can work it into the dirty talk and totally embarrass her. Lol

        Also, I could never handle a giver who would not receive in any way. It would actually cause a huge amount of depression for me.

        One of the things that is most important to me is the connected aspect of sex and I wouldn’t feel right not being able to touch freely. If that had happened to me I would be disappointed too!

        [–]Skipdip 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        She probably had trauma. I can relate... :/

        [–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Oh my goodness yes, that wonderful wetness :)

        [–]Innisfree 8 insightful - 8 fun8 insightful - 7 fun9 insightful - 8 fun -  (1 child)

        In view of the answers, I think the old L Word theme song needs a rewrite:

        Girls in tight tank tops Not wearing their bras Chicks smacking asses And touching them titties

        Women who long, love and lust Women who give This is the way It’s the way that we live

        Talking, laughing, loving, breathing Stroking, moaning, kissing, tribbing, Riding, giving, taking, coming

        This is the way It’s the way that we liiiiive!

        Edit: Visual representation of the last half-hour in my house 😂

        [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        Looooooooool

        [–]killerjen231 11 insightful - 2 fun11 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        For me, kissing is the ultimate turn on. That feeling of being so close, entangled within each other. Hands pulling heads and bodies impossibly close.

        IDK lol. I really like making out, and it will make me so turned on super fast. Fuck, even thinking about it is getting me going. Be right back... 😉😂

        It's been too long since I've been blessed with a make out session, and it shows!

        [–]LoneButch 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (5 children)

        I like hearing women moaning. Like the louder and more hysterical, the bigger the turn-on.
        I love to watch a woman having an orgasm/s. I love it when women ask me, "am i being a good girl?" I love having a woman beg me to fuck her. And spreading her legs for me.

        [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

        🤤 honestly same. Yes to all of that

        [–]LoneButch 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

        yes to having that done to you😉? Or yes to doing that?

        [–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Both. Definitely both if I’m to be honest 😩

        [–]ravenflies 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        I mostly just lurk here, but I just had to reply to this lol. I love having to beg, especially when my partner silently teases me or ignores me and then I'm forced to beg even more

        [–]sickofit 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        ... in Colorado by chance?

        [–]Jinera 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

        Here comes the degenerate.

        It's not that wild, but I am really into bigger women, all the way from a little chubby to genuinely fat. Sometimes that never fails to turn my on is when a woman let's me touch her belly. So far, everyone I've been with, thought it was amusing and cute and they liked that I adored their bodies.

        When it comes to what they can do to me.. my hands are strangely sensitive, so if they touch my hands idk man that just makes my body feel things. Also my waist.

        Or... jesus lord if they touch my neck my brain just dies right there. Even if it's just lightly ugh. I go weak, just like that.

        A big turn on for me if they take control. Not necessary during sex (though that as well lol) but like if we go somewhere, I like it if they choose where they are going, or lead the way. In my daily life I am always somehow the one who has to do all the decision making, so when someone else does it, it just feels good.

        [–]Skipdip 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        Haha my gf is big and I looveee her body so much. I feel like for me the combination of bigness with strength and grace and embodiment. I LoVE the feeling of her soft belly and breasts on mine. Her big wide hips. Looking into her eyes which are some of the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen. Her pillowy delectable lips. Running my hands through her thick short hair. Seeing that faraway look in her eyes as she goes into the pleasure trance. Sucking on her titties, her ear, her neck, her thigh crease. Running my hands up her torso. Feeling her, tasting her. When she looks down at me sweating and her face flushed, lost in sensation. Oh my goddd I love it so much. I love her moans and raspy whimpers. I could fuck her forever.

        I love topping her as well, we’ve done a bit of bondage and that was fun. I do like the feeling of her being putty in my hands ;). The wrestling someone else mentioned sounds so fun lol.

        Unfortunately she had some blockage and kind of sucked at giving to me :/ in months of having sex she never made me come once.

        [–]literallyjustvibing 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

        i have a pretty high sex drive but there are some things that REALLY turn me on lol. when a girl stretches out in pleasure when i'm down there, that's so hot. thighs also really do it for me. hips as well! i love the softness and curves of a girl. collarbones also!! ghhhhh youve made me remember how much i love girls