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[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Same. I'm so confused by it too. Crushes on both sexes right up till puberty and then nothing for the guys. I wonder if it's because everyone's sort of (physically anyway) androgynous up until that point? Twilight happened when I was 12 and I honestly couldn't understand my friends obsessing over edward and jacob. I had no idea which team to pick. No attraction to either of them. I think things became more clear when I began experimenting with people (as an adult) and I realised that there was a big difference between how I felt physically with men vs women and romantically too. I genuinely find the masculine aspects of a man's body a turn off and the opposite for feminine ones on a woman. So it's for that reason why I wouldn't call myself bisexual; however I do find it confusing why I could feel some kind of emotional attraction to boys as a kid. I would love an answer.

[–]TarshishJupiter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think it's partly because, yes, boys are pretty androgynous up until that age. And also, the sexual aspect of crushes at that point is really missing. As a child, many people develop warm, fluttery feelings about a lot of different people in a non-sexual way, and it doesn't necessarily determine who they're going to be attracted to when they grow up.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

yeah little kids dont even have libidos/sex drives yet so of course your feelings were not sexual.

[–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Thanks :) there are so many people who are like 'I knew I was gay when I was 8' and have never had an amorous feeling towards a male in their life. I couldn't relate so I figured I must be bisexual but that didn't sit right.