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[–][deleted] 39 insightful - 3 fun39 insightful - 2 fun40 insightful - 3 fun -  (5 children)

People are trying to turn lesbians being uninterested in dating bisexuals into a bad thing as always. The current popular talking point seems to be that "lesbians don't want to touch bi women because bi women have (possibly) touched a penis before, this makes lesbians biphobic!" I've never seen this mythical lesbian who is afraid of penis-contact-by-proxy. Not saying she couldn't possibly exist but if women like that are out there it seems like their existence is severely overblown.

I have seen lesbians who want to date other lesbians only because they feel they connect better with someone who is not attracted to men. Or because they feel turned off by their partner being attracted to men. Or simply because they want to be with another "gold star" lesbian. But lesbians having dating preferences or criteria is always evil somehow to people like this.

Moreover, LOL at the idea that lesbian women are afraid of being with other women who've had pasts with men. Many of us were forced into heterosexual relationships against our will. It's not unusual to find a lesbian who, to cast off suspicion on her true sexuality, partnered with a man. There are endless stories of conversion therapy due to lesbophobic upbringing or environment. There is constant presure on women to accept males into our love and lives. That understanding is implicit in lesbian community. I don't know what is with some bisexual women and this hangup over feeling like all lesbians need to be theoretically available to them in every circumstance.

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    [–][deleted] 23 insightful - 1 fun23 insightful - 0 fun24 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

    This is why I tend to do better with bi women that either overwhelmingly prefer or exclusively date women. They're much easier to relate to.

    In my experience, the bi women who prefer/usually partner seriously with men often want to talk to me about men, their attraction to men, and/or sex with men. Even in friendships. That's great for her but doesn't at all interest me. I don't want to hear about men! I don't care! I don't think the women making statements like in the screenshot understand that lesbian disinterest is not a personal judgment. They're just better off talking about some things with people attracted to men.

    [–]yayblueberries 25 insightful - 1 fun25 insightful - 0 fun26 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    People, especially bisexual women I have known, do not understand how much of a turn-off it is to even have to hear about them having had a sexual relationship with a man in the past. I don't like penises, I don't want to hear about penises, I don't want to hear about having sex with a man in any way, once that happens I tend to be just done. There is so much penis WORSHIP in U.S. society/culture. It's disgusting. And bisexual women can have as much of a "pick-me" attitude and behaviors that cater to men just as much as straight women.

    [–]lurkergirl 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Can? They usually do. As much? Generally more.