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[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Depends. There were a few where I jump out of the gate and broke the barrier immediately, and some where I had to take my time. It’s always been my working theory that if you’re still talking about your ex all the time, you’re not ready. No one wants to go out with someone they are interested in and be turned into a therapist unwillingly.

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    [–][deleted] 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    I even have the belt buckles that say I’ve been really good at break away 6 weekends of my last 40 years.

    [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    It takes me a long time. My relationships have been long-term.

    Dating is different. It depends on how invested I was in developing a potential relationship. There is no hard and fast rule for me.

    [–]Freetochoose 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    There is not hard and fast rule. Be your own leader and do what feels right for YOU.

    [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Half as long as the relationship is some numeric for that but i forget where i saw it. I mean, it’s supposed to measure how long it takes to be over being dumped or heartbroken

    [–]carrotcake 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    It depends a lot. I think that there's no such thing as "how long before it's not rebound". If it's rebound it'll feel like rebound, you won't feel connected or even if you do you'll still be thinking about going back to your ex. Sometimes you can start dating weeks after and it won't feel like rebound and other times months after it still doesn't feel right. If you want to go back to dating right now it's ok. As long as you're honest with yourself and with the people you're meeting you'll be fine. I'm sorry for your break up, hope you're doing alright. It's for the better, and in the long run you'll see it.