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[–][deleted] 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Polyamory is a hard pass for me. Just causally dating more then one person at a time was exhausting, and that was in my 20’s. I couldn’t imagine doing it full time, or choosing it as lifestyle. Most of the time when I’ve met someone involved in it they seemed insecure about the situation on one level or another. Looking at the relationships from the outside it always seemed to consist of one dominant person and a few doormats, just my opinion.

Threesomes always seemed to be drunken adventures. Never with anyone I actually cared for, established couples, or anyone that I had more then just a physical attraction to. The thought of seeing someone I care for with someone else isn’t something I’ve ever been down for.

[–]spirette 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Exactly. Who the hell has the time to date multiple people? Not me. One person is plenty enough. These poly people seem to spend all their time in some sort of weird drama. I don't buy the "there's no jealousy, we're above that!" bs either.

Never had a threesome. Again, to me that's too many women. One is plenty enough.

[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I see it as a being so insecure that you’re willing to let your SO go and be in whatever relationship they want as long as they pay attention to you every so often. Hence doormat.