No social media?

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[–][deleted] 12 insightful - 6 fun12 insightful - 5 fun13 insightful - 6 fun -  (0 children)

i consider that a sane person with respect for their own mental well-being lol

[–]oofreesouloo 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It depends. For example, due to a major life change, I've decided this year to delete all my social media accounts (I'm going to create new one(s) in September). However, if I meet someone online and am interested in having a date with that someone, I WILL make sure to have at least a videochat before. I won't avoid phone calls, or videochats or something. If you're talking with someone with no social media and who is always finding excuses not to videochat, not to phone call, etc etc etc. THAT is a massive red flag, in my opinion.

[–]VioletRemi 11 insightful - 4 fun11 insightful - 3 fun12 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

I do not have any social media. Part is banned in my country, part is not popular here at all, and in rest I see no reason to be in, or it is inconvenient to use. However, I am strange person, so I guess it is fine? :D

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    [–]VioletRemi 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Not sure if it can be called social media, but I guess.

    [–][deleted] 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

    I agree with oofreesouloo, it depends. However, it is becoming more common for people to have little to no social media accounts citing privacy concerns, toxocity, or a waste of time, for some. If it bothers you, you may ask why and see if it eases your thoughts. But, as I said, it seems that some people are moving away from multiple platforms.

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      [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 2 fun3 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

      Oh! Well like I said, its not suspicious or anything given that its a "trend" these days to get rid of them as people are finding things they don't like about them. (Not a critique on those who have them either).

      [–]southpaw 8 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

      I don't have a social media account. My wife does, but we basically use it to look at pictures of her family since they are all over the world. Every election cycle Facebook and Twitter go to shit and it's not really healthy to look at. I think the last time we were on Facebook was Christmas time. I do however stalk Instagram for news on Gentleman Jack season 2 :)

      [–]spirette 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

      I suspect this is a generation thing. But as I am in my thirties, it's absolutely not strange, on the contrary. Why would it be suspicious? I consider that a good thing. Several people I know don't have any social media. I have to use it for work and I hate it.

      People who spend a lot of time on social media are in my experience completely self-absorbed and vapid. Read a book kids! Practice a hobby, learn a new language, anything. Instead of looking for validation and "likes" from strangers. Yeah I sound like a grumpy old lady and I'm fine with it :)

      [–]yayblueberries 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

      I don't consider it strange or suspicious, but I'm at an age where social media didn't come about until I was already in my 20s. I easily adopted it because I like playing around with technology, but have been weaning myself off social media (is it weird that I don't count internet forums social media?) like Facebook because it has devolved into people screaming at each other and posting things on their own feeds in a way to try to bully into everybody else agreeing with them and wanting an echo chamber. I still have a Facebook account, but weeded things down to 40 "friends" who are people who only post about nature/birds and maybe a few other uplifting things or deets about their lives.

      For me a person can do whatever they want, they can have lots of social media or none at all, it doesn't matter to me as long as it isn't bringing drama into our lives.

      [–]CJLez 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

      If I knew the person in real life I wouldn't consider it strange. Saidit is the only 'social media' I use nowadays. I have an old linkedin and facebook account but neither have been updated in years so might as well not be there. I just find that I'm happier when I don't use them.

      If it's someone you only know online I'd be more wary incase it's a catfish.

      [–]a_blue_bird 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

      I don't have any social media accounts, and have heard from women that not having social media accounts is a ''red flag''. I consider such preoccupation with social media to be a red flag.

      [–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      All I have is Instagram. Quit all the others long ago.

      [–]beereadit 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I do not use social media myself so I'm not gonna be judgemental on someone else doing the same.

      I do think that some people will be suspicious if it's related to dating through apps be it because ofthe TRA, regular dudes or cheaters.

      [–]carrotcake 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I'm not really big on social media myself so I don't think it's weird at all. That being said I know a guy that has the resources to have a smartphone and has never had it. He can't use gps, any sort of apps or anything that involves internet unless he's with his computer. To choose doing that in the world we live in I think is a little bit odd. To each his own I guess.

      [–]knownasness 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      it's not suspicious but it is a bit strange.

      [–]Lessom 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      It depends on the context. If its a friend, colleague or some stranger then I don’t really think much of it.

      On dating apps its different as there many catfishes, you have to be careful. Having social media isn’t enough as anyone can set up fake ones. Its already been mentioned video chat is important as well.

      [–][deleted] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I wouldn't straight off the bat, especially if they seemed more introverted or a bit alternative. I hardly use mine anymore and I only have a handful of close friends / family on Instagram to share photos with.