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[–]spirette 14 insightful - 5 fun14 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 5 fun -  (7 children)

Because straight/bi women worship dick and don't want to be associated with lesbians who aren't "real" (read: dick-sucking and dick-pleasing) women. As long as they say yes to dick, women can hope to gain some status and some crumbs from men. Not much of course, but something. Lesbians don't get any of this so these straight/bi women (same thing) are just revealing what they think of us and how terrified they are to lose male approval.

[–]sootsprite 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

There are definitely women who seem to revolve their lives around pleasing men, but saying that straight/bi women as a group "worship dick" is quite demeaning

[–][deleted] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Agreed. That whole comment reeks of misogyny.

[–]oofreesouloo 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

I personally also didn't like the fact that she said straight and bi women are the "same thing". Yes, some of the bi women, especially those with a preference for men, are almost the same as straight women, but there are also several bi women who have nothing to do with straight women and that, besides, prefer women. Putting all the bi women in the same "box" didn't seem fair at all to me.

[–]spirette 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

93% of bi women solely date men. So that's 7% of them who actually date women. They are a tiny minority and every lesbian knows it. If you want to play the notallbiwomen! game, be my guest. But the odds are not in your favor.

[–]oofreesouloo 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (2 children)

It was the way you phrased it. Worshiping dick =/= liking men 😅

[–]spirette 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

that's basic feminist (specifically radfem) lingo. Look it up. I forget this sub isn't particularly feminist. Or perhaps a lot of women here are very young. I don't know.

[–]oofreesouloo 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yep, but this isn't a feminist place 😅