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[–][deleted] 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

They did something similar to the director of Portrait of a Lady on Fire, Céline Sciamma. She commented about how whenever she used the word lesbian they tried to replace it with the word queer. I've noticed this trend in mainstream media too. It's always queer, queer, queer, and never lesbian. Sometimes I've seen people call one person LGBT+. Really? This one person is the whole acronym?

I hate the way language is being used to invisibilize lesbians and take away our culture.

[–]FlanJam 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Oh yeah, I remember that now. Isn't it like a breach of journalistic integrity to change someone's words like that? Idk anything about that stuff, but I feel like it should be a big issue to change someone's words and pass it off as a quote they said.

I'm also reminded now of how a lot of lesbian artists call themselves queer of instead of lesbian. Tegan and Sara, King Princess, and Girl in Red come to mind. Now, labels are quite personal so I wouldn't dare say they need to call themselves lesbians. But its interesting how many women are averse to using "lesbian" as a label. Which is why I have a lot of respect for Hayley Kiyoko. She said she didn't like "lesbian" at first but now she wants to help normalize the word for others.

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    [–]carrotcake 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

    I cannot understand when a lesbian always calls herself "queer". It doesn't say anything about your sexual orientation, it can even be a gender descriptor. It feels like a deliberate choice to hide the fact that you're only same-sex attracted. I get it when it's someone that is discovering her sexuality and isn't sure yet or when it's used sometimes, but I can't understand why it would be your go to answer when describing your sexual orientation. I personally wouldn't use in any of those cases, but some of them I understand.

    [–]FlanJam 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Part of the reason might be because of how people are pushing ~fluidity~ and bisexuality as the coolest and most progressive sexuality. Lesbian is looked down on as stogy and close-minded. I've even seen think pieces about how we don't need "lesbian" anymore smh.

    I find it both ironic and sad that so many lesbians are averse to calling themselves lesbians, meanwhile a bunch of bi women are trying to "reclaim" lesbian for themselves.

    [–]spirette 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    if a lesbian calls herself "queer" then I know immediately that I have to avoid her at all costs, be it on a dating app or in real life. She's definitely an idiot and a coward. Pass.