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[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

the small dating pol

More like no dating pool at all here QQ

[–]florasis 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (10 children)

Here, you mean where you live? If you're stuck in a small place, it can mean no hope whatsoever. Only bigger urban places are decent.

[–]VioletRemi 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (9 children)

Yeah, where I live, as it is relatively small city. And even in country it is tough to find anyone. I wasn't really searching for last 6-7 years, tho. Only this year is somehow different and I am starting to feel lonely sometimes.

[–]florasis 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (8 children)

I'm sorry. Living in a small place can suck. Younger people all go to the bigger city to study and work. And if as hetero can be hard but you can always find someone, as a lesbian you got zero hope. But at least, there are dating apps. It would suck much more without them

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

I chose it myself, tho. It is calm and nice place, with forest, river and many lakes nearby.

[–]florasis 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

Sounds like a an introvert paradise. Problem is being single lesbian searching in such a place.

[–]VioletRemi 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

Indeed. Internet is a saving place, tho!

[–]florasis 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Damn yeah. I'm glad I live in this era, the pre-internet era was surely were much more difficult both in terms of accessing information and people.We never had this easy.

[–]VioletRemi 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

You reminded me about Kobylyanska and Ukrainka.

We have few famoust writers and poets, and 2 of them are women, who were lesbians (well, one lesbian who dated a man for a bit, and one bisexual who was married on a man twice), and they were writing lewd letters to each other, answering in months. However, in fear for their lives, they were changing names to "someone doing XXX with someone else" and then answer was like "someone else likes it and responds with ZZZ".

Imagine sexting with another girl and waiting continuation in weeks or months?

They were writing poems and books about strong women, and strong not in "classic woman way", and that was in 1890-1910s, when it was unthinkable blasphemy.

[–]florasis 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

OMG, that's so fucking hot. Ahahah.