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[–]yayblueberries 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I had not dated a woman since high school, where I was brutally bullied for it, and grew up in a homophobic family, so wasted my 20s just barely dating men hoping to avoid getting anymore abuse from society. It wasn't until the past few years, my mid-30s, that I've decided everybody is sick and society is sick and horrible and they can all be as offended as they want just because I like women instead of subscribing to mainstream's ass-backwards wish for women to still be submissive to and live with men. I figured out I'm going to be treated like crap by other people regardless, because humans suck, so I might as well finally be me.

EDIT: I also figured out the vast majority of my problems are caused by MEN so becoming a feminist has also been a relief.

[–]colormegood[S] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm so sorry that happened to you but glad you realized society has the problem and not you! Feminism definitely made me more comfortable with being a lesbian. I've never been with men but finding feminism did make me feel better about centering women in my life.

[–]yayblueberries 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I totally center women at this point thanks to feminism too! It has led to peacefulness and some support during more trying times and I am grateful for it. Not that women have not also been my bullies, but there's a huge difference, I think women as a whole are far more negatively affected by society and they don't come from much of a place of privilege. I'm just pretty much done with the more mainstream straight garbage, once I thought hard about just how dumb it is to abuse somebody just for not falling in line with the heterosexual narrative, I got angry instead of feeling victimized. How dumb it is to treat people as gross and dirty and "other" just because they love the same sex!