So I've been trying online dating for the first time in almost ten years, so I'm very rusty at the unspoken rules of it. I came back into it with some expectations and rules for myself. Take my time, be patient and understanding, open up a bit more, and no ghosting. So far I've only had one chat go on more than a couple of days, and I must say I enjoy speaking to her. She's interesting. She's also very busy right now because she's a teacher, and well you guys know what's going on in the world, so I've been open to the fact that her life is going in ten different directions at the moment.
Last week I asked her if she'd like to meet up for a walk or video chat, and she preferred video due to everything being hectic. So this Thursday was the day, and I figured she might either forget or want to cancel. I wasn't going to bring it up because of her stressful week, but to my surprise she remembered and asked to postpone the chat. (A day was not picked) I figured I'd let her decide, when she has time and energy when she'd want to chat.
The thing is I feel like I'm overthinking things. It's been about two weeks since we started communicating, so I don't know if I should just wait her out until things calm down or move on. All the "advice" I've been reading says if two or more days go by without a response, then it's time to move on, and they aren't worth your time. But I feel like that's just throwing someone away. She's explained to me a couple of times (without prompt) that she's a bad texter, and I know she is very busy at the moment. So I just don't want to move on because someone is busy especially if she's been open to me about what's going on. I also feel like if she was no longer interested, she wouldn't explain herself to me.
I haven't even worked up the nerve to ask her to exchange numbers yet. Now I know this is just online dating, but I'm really trying here.
What would you ladies do? How long do you wait until you move on? And what are some tells that someone is no longer interested in talking to you?
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