Have you had anyone question you for your stance on dating trans people?

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[–]Astrid2448 18 insightful - 2 fun18 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 2 fun -  (6 children)

I find that aside from people on the far left, people either don’t agree with trans ideology or are paying it lip service. Most liberals are along the lines of “well let’s just be nice and get along”. They don’t realize that there are people thinking they can be trans lesbians, taking down businesses, protesting women’s spaces, etc. Once they hear about it they kind of freeze. They also tend to assume that LGBTALDJDLFO is a monolith and are surprised that we don’t all get along. A lot of them even think trans is basically just gay but even gayer, associating it with drag queens and gay men.

[–]VioletRemi 19 insightful - 4 fun19 insightful - 3 fun20 insightful - 4 fun -  (4 children)

Most people I've met in the internet are not really aware what this trans ideaology is at all, and they think that trans people just want to silently live and that all trans people are making the most effort to look like women/men, spending all money on HRT and surgeries. And because of that they are surprised if someone is against this. In general, just showing some facts about transpeople and how self-ID is harming women and lesbians is enough to make them gender critical, nothing more is needed.

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    [–]VioletRemi 20 insightful - 4 fun20 insightful - 3 fun21 insightful - 4 fun -  (2 children)

    I am not defending my stance, I am just providing facts, and that is their choice to think or ignore. In general it is something like vancouver rapre relief, statistics about 48% of transwomen in prison being rapists, statistics that majority of transwomen and transmen are not even trying to transition, links to detransitioners, different things like this, and how transbians are hurting us with forcing relationships. Transwomen in sports taking over or crushing skulls is good turn off as well for many people. This site have nice collections of links: https://forwomen.scot/did-you-know/

    However, I am very non-conflictal and logical person, so I am never pushing my thoughts into minds of others, I am giving them a choice, and breaking everything anyone throws at my by just mere facts. And I think it has to do with my "dominatrix" wibe, as people tend to follow me, as I am very self-confident outside (and crying teen inside) and I am extremely kind and carrying of others (even to people I hate, I am searching raesoning in their behaviour), so people tend to believe me more than to anyone else for some reason. And most women does not have such "aura" as myself, so it is harder to them. I always ending up leading any circles I join, as no one want to take responsibility and no one is as fearless as myself (I lived through a lot, a lot of violence, whole my body and face is covered with scars, so even in fear of violence I am still standing up my ground against men going to shut down me or others). I have nothing to lose, and most women don't have such privilege.

    [–]reluctant_commenter[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    Thanks for the links and suggestions! I'll keep them in mind as well, that question was on my mind too :) I might make a quick list of links to have at the ready.

    so people tend to believe me more than to anyone else for some reason. And most women does not have such "aura" as myself, so it is harder to them.

    Damn, that sounds useful! Sounds like it is more than merited in your case.

    I have nothing to lose, and most women don't have such privilege.

    That is an accurate, and powerful, way of putting it.

    Thank you for sharing!

    [–]VioletRemi 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    Well, it is more because what I lived through and not gave up, than to do with anything else. Took me long years to recover. I just got enough of this. And maybe scars are making me look more scary or commanding, dunno. I guess I was just lucky to not get killed yet, hehe.

    [–]reluctant_commenter[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    I find that aside from people on the far left, people either don’t agree with trans ideology or are paying it lip service. Most liberals are along the lines of “well let’s just be nice and get along”.

    Has been my experience with many liberal people, and indeed, this used to be my stance months ago. These people are farther left than that unfortunately. They may be sane anyway though, we'll see. Already found one liberal but detrans supportive friend here.