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[–]yayblueberries 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

For me it's only 5 and 7. It's like a microcosm of how I use the internet in general, I like using it to babble and talk about stuff, but not necessarily always about bigger topics or serious things. And I've been done with being screeched at by woke SJWs since I graduated college in 2008.

I have a sort of vague goal of hoping that I break any pigeonholes there might be around what lesbians do or who they are. Sometimes I just don't always agree or am different even amongst lesbians, and I'm totally fine with that. I always hope maybe somebody just coming to terms with who they are and is lurking sees that and realizes they don't have to change themselves to fit a mold in order to feel like they belong.

[–][deleted] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Do you do anything IRL that would be bigger and more serious, as it relates to lesbians? Or are you not really the activist type?

[–]yayblueberries 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

No I do not. I suffered enough abuse from my parents and in early schooling that I'm not willing to make myself a target on purpose.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Sorry to hear that. Way too common among our community. Another way that we are so vulnerable to all of these hostile takeovers. It sucks the impetus for defending our communities mostly falls to us, a vulnerable minority with much larger and more powerful foes. On the one hand, you want to be independent and fight for yourself, but it's like bailing a sinking boat with Dixie cups.

[–]yayblueberries 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I took some time to think about this and I realize I may naturally be doing something in a way! In the past year I have strongly begun centering and focusing my life around women as much as I possibly can. Like making an actual effort, because it's so easy to naturally let men in since they are pushy and demand to be in the middle of everything. I've made sure to give women voices, take them seriously, listen to them, give them time, while really detaching from men and not giving much importance at all to their voices, their interests, what they want, etc. So not lesbians per se but I am opening up space for women around me to have power and to hear themselves and to speak up.

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Awesome! While I'm not really a radical feminist, I would say I agree with most of their central goals and points. One of the biggest being centering women. It's not that difficult, and can have a huge impact if we all practice it to any degree. Being lesbians makes it less difficult. So it's not like every single woman would have to banish men in every capacity of their lives to make a difference, in my belief. Anything you do for women will also benefit lesbians, so there's that.

I'm happy my post was of some use to you. I'm beginning to feel kind of like a nerd doing these survey-like posts, lol. I'm personally just really intent on amplifying lesbian voices and thoughts, and while not much, this little forum is all I have atm.