I am well aware of the social pressures on people, particularly women. I am not asking for everyone to be a gold star and I am not even a gold star myself. I am from an extremely conservative background where I was disowned for being a lesbian. But this article, and latebloomerlesbians in general, is absolutely loaded to the brim with women who are not even remotely lesbians but convince themselves they are or intentionally lie about it. And no, the problem with this article is not that you have to "agree with every point" but that almost every single part of it sounds nothing like a lesbian. The only things I cut from the document were rambling areas from the points above, so don't be disingenuous. That isn't because of social pressure, that is because of the clear attraction to men, upset with bad relationships that have nothing to do with sexuality, and general total lack of understanding of homosexuality. Even look at you here... "well some of them date women!" Yeah, ok, plenty of them don't, and of the ones that do are almost always bisexual women who are attracted to men as well.

Sure, they can be bisexual, but they are not lesbians if they are reading this post and even kind of thinking that it sounds accurate. They are not lesbians if they read a place like latebloomerlesbians, which is full of women proudly calling themselves lesbians despite being in love with their husband, regularly fucking dudes, having boyfriends, or retaining attraction to men that they choose not to act on. That isn't because they're "late bloomers" and the mean gold stars are putting them down, this is not because people expect you to know everything about everything in the womb. This is because they were never lesbians to begin with. Your reaction to this stuff, and the subreddit latebloomerlesbians in general, makes me seriously doubt that you're a lesbian as well.