Childfree lesbians who have settled down, how big is your home?

submitted by Lesbiian from self.Lesbians

I'm childfree without exception, only have cats, and I've pretty much reached a point where I want a home I own. But what size?

I'm single. I hope I don't stay that way forever. I'm young enough that anyone I partner up with in this city is unlikely to own a home, so I'd like to have space for two to start with rather than having to go through the hassle of selling, buying a new place, moving, etc., if I want to move someone in with me.

I'm seriously leaning toward a tri-level townhouse because I simply don't need or want a full-size house (they're all family homes around here), but I want something bigger than an apartment-style condo.

Would you feel cramped sharing a 1,500sqft home with someone long-term? Would 2,000sqft be better? What if it had a basement, detached single-bay garage, and large patio or small yard and was close enough to downtown that you could easily and regularly walk to a park, cafe, library, etc., to get some space? Would that influence how cramped you felt if the home itself was on the smaller side?

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[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

We are devoutly childfree. Our house is a 3900sq 4 bedroom/4 bath on large acreage, but we like private time and space and use the property to generate income. And a detached garage sounds great in theory but attached saves time and you don’t have to go outside if you need something at 1 am from your car. Most people I know get along great in 1500 sq ft as long as the lay out is good. You just have to ask yourself if you want it to be a starter home or a forever home.

[–]SerpensInferna 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (6 children)

I own a 1400 sqft townhouse with a small yard, I'm single, have a 100 lb dog and a small snake, and I think it's a little more space than I actually need. If I were to live with someone I would have plenty of space to not feel crowded. Just my POV.

[–]queerone 7 insightful - 2 fun7 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

What kind of snek? 🐍

[–][deleted] 8 insightful - 5 fun8 insightful - 4 fun9 insightful - 5 fun -  (0 children)

I agree about the snake, more details are needed.

[–]SerpensInferna 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

She is a little baby corn snake, about a year old but growing like a weed! I feel like every time I look at her she gets longer.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Corn snakes are awesome and super sweet! We have an albino that’s 12 years old that we have had since a hatchling and a ball python who’s a year and a half.

[–]IamWomanHearMeRoar 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Whoop snek

[–]queerone 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

Since singles count, I've managed to snag a nice roomy 1 bedroom apartment with my spoiled, beloved cat. I'm on disability, will never qualify for a mortgage and besides that housing costs here are insane compared to the cold areas of Canada so I consider myself very lucky.

(In Vancouver a shack will go for $8 million. I wish I was kidding, but we have a major money laundering issue here.)

My main issue is not getting any woman muff/girlfriends! [cries]

[–]spermaide 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Same in Toronto. I think it’s time to move to Nunavut. Houses might be cheaper there. Lol

[–]queerone 2 insightful - 4 fun2 insightful - 3 fun3 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Maybe but groceries are exorbitant. $20, $30 for a large jar of Cheez Whiz? Hell no!

[–]spermaide 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Also, limited hot water. Lol.

[–]Jaded 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

May I just say I appreciate the practicality of this question? Looking forward to hearing everyone's answers and reasoning.

Anyway I am single and am picky enough than I'm fine with staying that way. I live in a 850sqft one bedroom and like it great, but I do wish I had a two bedroom so that I have a spare bedroom for family visits

[–]whateverman 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

My wife and I used to want children. We've decided it wasn't in the cards for us. Maybe we'll foster older children someday, maybe not. Our current lifestyle, career goals and other aspirations are great for us, but wouldn't really be fair for children. We've also decided that neither of us want to be responsible for bringing new life into the world in its current state. There are already too many people.

We live in a one-bedroom apartment with our dogs. It's about 2000 square feet. We want to buy a home in an expensive urban area, so we'll probably never own a house. We're aiming for a one-bedroom or two-bedroom condo with a strata that allows pets. We'd be happy with 800 square feet at the smallest. We're pretty minimalist with our decor and household items. We won't need much storage.

[–]florasis 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

One bedroom apartment is enough. Two bedroom is super comfortable.

[–]Icebridge 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I am single as well, but ive put some thought into this. To me a 3 bedroom is ideal (we do not have basements where i live, or the basement could easily substitute for a bedroom) as i would like a guest bedroom and game/media room if possible.

[–][deleted] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm single, but a 3 bedroom (or 4 if one or both of us work from home and need an office) is my big-time dream as well, except I would like one bedroom to be for me to use however I want and one bedroom to be for her to use however she wants. Mine would probably wind up being a hybrid den / study with a couch, a desk, and my books. I'm pretty big on my alone time and need a "man-cave" like retreat.

This is dream-big stuff though. For practicality, 1500 square feet is more than enough for a couple in my opinion. I could make do with a one bedroom too.

[–]Mobymaybe 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I’m single, childfree, and bought a townhome in the city a few years ago. Its about 1500 sq ft. 2B/2B. Small yard. I have a dog and a cat. I feel like its plenty of space for me and if a gf ever did move in, we wouldn’t feel cramped. There are pros/cons of being in the city. Lots of noise. Air pollution. More expensive. Pros: close to parks/museums /work. Close to events/shows. Housing prices tend to fluctuate less than in suburban areas. Start viewing places to get an idea of what you want/need in a home. For me it was sunlight, yard, and close to work.