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[–]spirette 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

I'm sorry. it must be a fucking nightmare to be a teenager these days. Even more so than before. I think it's important to keep in mind that being a lesbian has never been easy and never will be. I don't want to lie to you.

When I was a teenager 15 years ago, there wasn't a single gay or lesbian in my school of 800 students. And this is the kind of thing everybody would have heard about because news travelled fast. I can't think of a single out gay/lesbian student. I wasn't out at the time. And I'm from a very dechristianized European country. There wasn't also a single lesbian celebrity (in my country I mean) that I could point out and think "well she is a lesbian and she is successful and happy". Gay men in the media, yeah sure, but lesbians? Nope. it was a very lonely experience. I'm saying this so that you don't romanticize the past.

These days, because being LGBT (blah) is trendy, kids are jumping on the bandwagon to look "cool" and "edgy". But it's fake, and as you point out, lesbians are rare. And it's because we are rare. You will meet some later, trust me, but yeah most women are straight or bi which is basically the same thing really.

But all of my exes were lesbians. So yeah it's possible to meet and date actual lesbians. Just give it time. When these pretendbians are done with this fad, you will be able to sort out the ones who are actual lesbians and the ones who are "pan" or just bored straight girls. Take care.

[–]RedditHatesLesbians[S] 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I actually dated one of these queer girls last year and I really liked her. I had had a huge crush on her from the moment I saw her. In the end we dated for about a month I was really happy, but she never wanted to kiss me or even hold my hand, she was even weird about quick hugs. We broke up and she got with a boy a week later and was making out with him full-on, turns out I dated a straight girl. I still don't know why she lead me on for that long, since she said she didn't want anyone to know about our relationship it can't have been for popularity. But that whole experience kind of bummed me out. I hope I'll find myself a nice lesbian in my 20s when everyone is more sure of themselves aha