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[–]whateverman 24 insightful - 1 fun24 insightful - 0 fun25 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

There was someone here that called someone a 'princess' as an insult. I figured he was probably a guy. Looked through the post history and yeah, a guy. There's giveaways. Certain insults, certain obsessions. Fixations on anime and polyamoury are usually pretty good hints for transbians. Some lesbians might be into that, but men have a way of being super extra about things.

[–]yousaythosethings 27 insightful - 6 fun27 insightful - 5 fun28 insightful - 6 fun -  (1 child)

I'd be curious to learn what other insults you find to be giveaways. For me, "Karen" is a huge red flag. "White feminism" is another. Anything that denigrates/dismisses the concerns and lives of middle-aged women as a class is very male. Any insults that are laden with violence and physicality come across as very male. Also, I won't pretend like I never do anything that approximates objectifying women. I try to not be a sleaze, and I'm definitely not leaving creepy comments about women's appearances all around the Internet, but I think we can all recognize there's a very, very male way to do it.

One thing I'm not quite finding the words to explain right now, but the constant fetishizing of specific "types of women" signals very male behavior to me. It's all over actuallesbians and it gets upvoted straight to the top, but anything about the following comes across in this way to me (And I'm listing their typology. These aren't my own words):

  • Cottage core lesbians
  • Sword lesbians
  • Goth lesbians
  • The way they use "top" and "bottom." I think some younger girls are adopting this, but they still use it in a different way and aren't like commenting on women's photos saying they have "bottom energy" or "top energy" or shit like that.

Just the constant categorization of women/lesbians reeks of someone from the outside (a male) trying to study women/lesbians so they can imitate what they see and LARP. It reeks of someone who does not interact with or know women/lesbians IRL.

[–]whateverman 20 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 0 fun21 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Terf is the obvious giveaway with its frequency of use. Women tend to go along with it to show support of their friends, but even when they make violent threats, they usually just throw it in once or twice on Twitter and move on. Transbians specifically will not let it go. There is a layer of obsession that you do not get from other groups, even other transexuals and TRAs. Constant "fuck terfs" and "kill terfs" and "shut up terf?" Transbian nearly 100% of the time.

Other insults are just anything that attacks women specifically. Slut, bitch, whore, etc. When you can really read the disdain in how it's used, it's usually male. There's a visceral hatred that you can just feel when you hear or see it. When a woman says slut, she's shaming a woman for sleeping around a lot. It's a slur with a straight definition. When a man says it, there's usually a distinct disgust and hatred added in that truly wishes to express that you are less. Something that says die. There's an inherent rage for men like that.