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[–]mangosplums 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

3) I personally don't like/can't relate to masculinity in general (and I'm even turned off by it when it comes to masculine women) and most men are masculine - more uninterest

I'm the same. I don't like masculinity in men or women. No offense to women who are masculine, but it's just not my jam. I don't relate to men either. I feel like there's something about being a woman that they just don't understand or that they lack.

With that said there might be some people who actually perceive me as "masculine" because I'm not really a make-up person and I wear my hair up most of the time, and I'm really casual in my clothes. I don't wear male style clothing, I wear clothes that are cut for women, they're just plain. I've had people say to me "do you even own a skirt?". Honestly this is deeply hurtful to me, and I'm not ever sure why they'd say that to me because I do dress up sometimes. The reason I dress the way I do has more to do with body insecurities and not feeling pretty, because I have PCOS, which also makes me feel masculine, which makes me feel like absolute shit, because I don't like masculinity, in either someone's physicality or personality, and I don't want to be masculine so the fact that I have PCOS is horrible to me. It gives me low self esteem and that, coupled with depression, is partially why I dress the way I do. The fact that some people seem to take that as me being "masculine" feels like absolute shit, but oh well.

[–]oofreesouloo[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Thanks for your answer :D Yes, you seem to understand me, at least for the most part :P

Masculinity and femininity isn't just about the clothes :) It seems that you're fixating a lot on that. I'm sure you wouldn't cross as 'masculine' to me.

The reason I dress the way I do has more to do with body insecurities and not feeling pretty

Awww, I think you could start small. So, wearing little things that you like to see yourself with, but it's definitely something that won't be overnight. Overall, small steps.

I'm not really a make-up person

I love make up but I won't use it on a daily basis. I personally see make up as an art and I'd use it in speacial occasions or days to make my look more 'bright' and beautiful. I personally also like to see the natural beauty of a woman, so that's another reason I won't use it on a daily basis (because it goes directly against what I prefer lmaaao).

I'm sure you're just fine :)

[–]mangosplums 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree that it’s not about the clothes, that’s why it annoys me when other people seem to view it that way. They’re like drawing these conclusions about me that are just way off and I don’t know where it’s coming from.

I’m sure you’re just fine. :)

Aw, thanks.