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[–]carrotcake 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Nearly all of my close friends are female but like a lot of people here, i find it easier to talk to men in a superficial level. Besides that, they sort of respect what i say more than they usually do with other women? Usually they tend to respect my advice, opinion and maybe intelect a little bit more. I have no idea why. It's really offputing to experience being heard while their fucking girlfriend isn't being listened to. That has happened since way back when everyone thought i was straight so that isn't the point.

[–]mangosplums 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Why do you think that is? Is there something about the way you present that makes them respect/listen to you more? Are you butch or femme?

[–]carrotcake 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm somewhere in the middle, closer to femme than to butch. I used to be pretty feminine. I always had some non-girly mannerisms, though (the way i sit, for example). When i wrote i thought that maybe they used to sense that I didn't have interest in them even when I wasn't out, but since it isn't a common experience i think i was probably wrong.