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[–]Ricky_Ticky[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

You are really trapped in this situation. You can't make a move because she is not single. But she isn't doing much either on her side. Does she know that you are gay? If so, maybe you have some pictures on you fb with ladies, and now she thinks you are not single as well?

[–]WildwoodFlower 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I feel most trapped in this situation because of the Covid lockdown. We can't see each other much as friends, let alone as anything more. And there's no end to this in sight.

I never told her I was gay, but she has no reason to think I'm straight. If she has gone through my FB page as thoroughly as I think she has, then she has probably figured it out. Most of my FB pictures are of myself with family members, or of myself with people she knows. She's even in a couple of them. Most of the photos where I'm with friends she doesn't know are old ones-- like really old ones from the 80s and 90s. There's nothing I can think of that would make her suspect I'm not single. (Then again, there aren't any pictures of her boyfriend on her FB page, so she knows from firsthand experience that FB doesn't reveal everything about a person's relationship status.)

[–]Ricky_Ticky[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

If I were you, I think I would not have the patience to wait for the problem to resolve itself. I would tell her that I like her and see what her reaction is. It doesn't really matter what she responds, I am sure you will see it in her eyes whether she likes you as a woman or just as a friend

[–]WildwoodFlower 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Having patience or not isn't a choice. This is the way life is right now, with this situation and with everything else in my world. If I do decide to tell her, I would rather be patient and wait until I can actually talk to her like a normal human being instead of standing six feet away from her and trying to discern her facial expressions through a mask.

[–]Ricky_Ticky[S] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Right, makes sense