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[–]whateverman 9 insightful - 2 fun9 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I'm emotionally needy and I've always been attracted to independent women. I want my wife's attention like 24/7, but if she actually paid attention to me that much I'd lose interest. It all balances out because those two wants ensure that we have a relationship, but that we also each get enough space and have our own lives. But I acknowledge that if I didn't meet her, I probably would have stayed single forever. It's too demanding to have another human being balance between my contradicting needs and wants. I'm lucky to have someone I naturally have a good dynamic with, but I've been a neurotic, distant girlfriend and I'm not proud of that.