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[–]cervix 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It's also weird to see femme lesbians put trans butch women on a pedastal of what "butch womanhood" is. I know my own issues come into play but it's just odd to me. How can you put a man on the pedastal of what a butch woman is when you're attracted to women, or at least claim to be?

They're not femme lesbians. They're bisexual women.

I'm starting to get real tired of this "blame the femmes" game everyone seems to be playing these days. The radfems claim that we're the reason butch women transition, and the butch lesbians think we prefer men over masculine women and constantly feel threatened. Meanwhile, actual femme lesbians are just that. Lesbians. Females attracted to females. It's not our fault that bi women love masquerading as us so much. It's not that complicated: if it's a woman and it wants dick, it's not a femme lesbian.

[–]Fuckyoucensorship[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I agree with all of that. Certainly hope I didn't come across as blaming "femmes". That wasn't what I was trying to say. I'm aware they're bisexual women if that's the case. Nothing wrong with bi women, thats just a different camp.

But coming from a butch who was a transman for 4 years let me voice now that my decision to try and transition had little to do with femme's. Femmes loved me as a butch. Bi women loved me as a transman. Both were equally feminine in my mind but it wasn't enough because I didn't view myself as someone worth loving as a masculine woman. Not to the fault of femmes. Femmes loved me where and how I was. In fact femmes saw me as I was and loved me in that place. If you or anyone else doesn't find that beautiful there's something wrong.

My point being don't shoulder that blame, even though you seem to know that I want to tell you that anyway. My issues with my biological sex only arise from my own issues and disgust of it. My attraction and relationship to women is a nice cherry ontop to my own issues. It just so happens the cherry on top is the easiest to vocalize for those who don't want to do the legwork and figure out what's going on.

But I agree with what you said, I didn't phrase it very clearly but the implication is it being annoying to sort through fakes to get to the real deal, and while my brain knows thats not a lesbian my emotions and past issues don't. Hopefully that is phrased better. Be well and keep your head up high my friend.