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[–]Kimaris 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (3 children)

Lesbians almost always keep to themselves plus we're not really into the whole hookup culture. I think, as a whole we're largely monogamous. It would be nice to have a lesbian cafe with book/band focus on weekends though so we could have more lesbian friends.

[–]paleolithicat 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

That is not true.

Lesbians may be largely more loyal than other sexuality groups (which also isn't proven through anything besides some people's observations, is it?) but that doesn't mean they are not really into the whole hookup culture. Actually it annoys me to keep hearing that because it is perpetrating a stereotype that is harmful for the community in my opinion. Lesbians are not different from heterosexual women. Some enjoy one night stands, casual sex, flings, harmless flirting, no strings attached, whatever whatever, and some don't.

The fact that there aren't such spaces or that "hookup culture" is frowned upon by some lesbians, is more of a consequence of not wanting to have something in common with anything "heterosexual" and "male-driven" like hookups, or more so with how they normally get portrayed.

[–]Kimaris 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Harmful? Sorry, it might just be my 3rd world brain at work here but how is not being prone to more STDs a bad thing? I mean, you do you. But I like how lesbians have a low stat numbers on that topic. Also, I never heard of hookup culture being frowned upon by lesbians because they don't want to be like other people. That's just silly. No one, especially a random group of lesbians can enforce what other lesbians/women do. If they have that much influence then we can control all the bisexual women who misuse the label lesbian and stop the stupid "lesbians do dick" bs. But we can't do that now can we.

I don't have any other lesbian to compare myself to so I can only use myself. I'm absolutely loyal to my partner and I tried to do hookups (when I was single). I can't. I literally can't will myself to even though I had countless opportunities to. No one told me I CAN'T do hookups. Lmao. That's hilarious btw. If you want to do hookups. Literally no one is stopping you.

[–]paleolithicat 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, all good. I do me, you do you. You used the pronoun "we" though when describing how YOU are. And implied that lesbians as a whole are not into something or have certain traits. Which is simply untrue. A massive generalisation and a stereotype. That's all.