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    [–]vodkaconlimon[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    thank you for your words, really. I'll be checking this community often I really love you all!

    [–][deleted] 21 insightful - 1 fun21 insightful - 0 fun22 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    It’s not you, it’s them, babe. It’s REALLY REALLY them. Most people don’t know how much of a hellscape the LGBTQ+ community is, because most people are straight. But trust me, there is nothing inherently wrong with you. We are all bummed.

    [–]vodkaconlimon[S] 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    oh, I know... this sucks. but thank you, sometimes is hard to be okay with oneself but I'm glad I found this place again!

    [–]beholdyourheart 19 insightful - 2 fun19 insightful - 1 fun20 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

    I get how you feel OP. This sort of stuff has really gotten to me because it took me so long to come to terms with my homosexuality and now I'm considered 'wrong' on both sides. Hearing people who I really respect on other social issues basically call people like me evil bigots for the sexual orientation that we can't control was pretty rough, and for a while I wondered if maybe I was actually being a bigot by not being open to relationships with bio male people. But the more I thought about the more ridiculous that sentence even seems - the idea that not being sexually available to a group = not supporting their rights to live safely and peacefully is honestly so disgusting and manipulative and it makes me feel crazy when people don't seem to realize this. TL was really important to me as well because it's so empowering to have a space where I didn't have to debate my sexuality and boundaries, it was just a place for lesbians and that gave me so much more confidence.

    So yeah, you're not being over-dramatic. It's natural to feel upset when one of the only spaces for lesbians on the internet gets taken down. But you're not wrong or broken, this is literally just our sexuality and it's 100% natural even if people try to convince us otherwise. Hope you stick around here, this community is obviously much smaller but I have hope for it. Lesbians will always exist and find each other.

    [–]vodkaconlimon[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    thank you for your words. I'm glad I found you all again because I really love reading you. I feel I'm not alone haha. I'll try to remember your words every time I'm feeling down :)

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    women are expected to accommodate everyone & refusal to do so is seen as abnormal, so it makes people uncomfortable. thus they lash out at us. & many who claim to empathize with us seem unable to actually understand homosexuality because it's so different from their own experience. but we know who we are, we're not broken or disgusting & we're still here! always have been & always will be. <3

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    You're allowed to exclude anyone and everyone from your dating/sex pool for any reason you want, and anyone telling you your reasons aren't "good enough" can literally go fuck themselves. You don't owe anyone your body or your love.

    [–]vodkaconlimon[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    thank you, I'll remember your words! I don't own nobody anything, and even less when it's something that I can't change.

    [–]circus_cyaneus 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    I get you, OP. I'm 21 and I went there for comfort and support as I tried to sort out my sexuality. Wrote some really heartfelt posts that I wish I'd saved elsewhere... I guess they're all gone now. Most discussions in TL were balanced and respectful and I appreciated that as a non-ideologized, same sex-attracted young woman.

    [–]vodkaconlimon[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

    yeah... I just hope we all can find this place again. it really meant a lot for many of us

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      [–]vodkaconlimon[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

      I can relate to you, sometimes I feel like there is no place for me in this world

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        [–]vodkaconlimon[S] 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

        no it's not. me and my feelings are pretty much real