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[–]rosegoldstar 28 insightful - 7 fun28 insightful - 6 fun29 insightful - 7 fun -  (3 children)

Browsing that sub always gave me a headache, even before I peaked. I was particularly confused on how ""afab"" nonbinary people could be lesbians if transwomen were also 100% true and honest, oh-so-totally valid, lesbians. Wouldn't the inclusion of enbies reaffirm that lesbianism = sex based attraction, not gender? Hmmmm. Anyway. 11/16 mods there are male, which really says it all I think. They even have a handy guide on how not to be a transphobe, here's a tidbit:

Things which are not transphobic:

Not being interested in, or not dating, a specific woman who does not currently have the genitalia you prefer.

they actually think the surgical attempt at recreating female genitalia, or a neovagina, is equivalent to the real thing? shudder.

[–]Fleursdumal 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

It's really sad because they believe their own lies and then permanently damage their bodies. Neovagina disasters was such a great sub because it showed reality. For some transwomen, the dysphoria is so strong they just want to get rid of their penis and don't care. They know it's not the real thing. On the other hand there's so many young and impressionable teenagers that fall for the fantasy.

I know a lot more transguys than transwomen and none of them got SRS even after 5-10 years of transitioning. They usually date bi or queer women that are okay with what they have. I guess it's ancedotal but it seems transmen are way more connected to reality. Gaybros calls out transmen all the time and they didn't get banned.

[–]rosegoldstar 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, it's true. Very sad for the kids that fall for this and scary as hell that there are parents pushing it on their children, some starting as young as 3 years old!

with regard to the "neovaginas"... I was wondering why, if it's strictly a dysphoria issue, they wouldn't just remove the penis (and create a hole for the urethra)? The pseudo vaginal cavity that is created during SRS is nothing like an actual vagina. Wouldn't having an obvious 'fake' just create even more dysphoria?

[–]Fleursdumal 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

It does and that's why there's so many stories trans then detrans then trans again and then sometimes detrans again. The only real solution is acceptance. Denial also works sometimes but it will eventually catch up.