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[–]Chocolatepudding 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

'Our sexual chemistry is better with each other than either one of us have ever had with anyone else. All very natural and easy. I think he actually much prefers sex with me because no prep or douching required. Just all very easy and natural'

Woah homophobic!!!! Jeez. Thread continues in a similar vein

However I have a question - what do you make of men like the one described here? Lifelong gay man in the usual sense. Meets a transman and gets into a relationship with him (her). .... Now I'm not one to police anyone's language or descriptors that they choose for themselves. If a man calls himself gay, I'm not gonna disbelieve him. Do you think they're at least bisexual? But to be bisexual and never seek an opposite sex partner, does that make sense? Does it remind anyone of gay men getting married to women to avoid their homosexuality? But these are men who already have relationships with other men. Doesn't seem to make much sense

[–]NutterButterFlutterStill waving into the void 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If he enjoys sex with a woman, then he's not homosexual, he's bisexual. But bisexuality is a spectrum.

There are bis who have sex with both men and women, but only have relationships with one. There are bis who primarily have sex and relationships with one, but do have rare instances of being with both. Etc.

This guy isn't like gay men who marry to hide being homosexual - they might develop a platonic love for the woman they marry, but the entire romantic and sexual aspect of the relationship is an act.

This guy is someone who never had any romantic or sexual interest at all in women so he thought he was gay. Then he stumbled across a woman who looks like a man, and romantic or sexual interest developed along the way, so he tried PiV and liked it.

If they break up, I doubt he'll go looking for another woman - he was never interested in them before. He just happened to like this one because she looks like a guy. He's technically bisexual, but he's on the far edge of the spectrum. Where he's into men 99% of the time, but will dabble a little bit with women under the right circumstances.

Notice in all their talk about finding a "cis gay man" who loves their "bonus hole", you never hear about the "cis gay man" eating pussy? These kinds of bisexual guys aren't into it for vagina, they just enjoy sex.