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[–]hufflepuff-poet 13 insightful - 2 fun13 insightful - 1 fun14 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I told my wife 3 days ago about my desire to transition, explained what I knew about the process, and offered to answer any other questions she might have. At first she was just caught off guard but she asked some great questions and I felt like things were going well; but now that we're 3 days into it, her emotional reaction to this is really starting to get to me. We've discussed different aspects at length in the last few days, and it seems that she has fallen into a depression as a result of the news. I feel terrible for hurting her, I just couldn't lie to myself anymore... I'm hurt because 1) it's starting to become more about her emotions than it is about my transition; 2) I don't really get why she's acting like I died or something (she's literally said that), 3) it seems like she's convincing herself to stay with me (I don't want to lose her but I would never force her into something she didn't want to be a part of), and 4) I just really wanted someone (my best friend especially) to just be happy for me. I feel like I ruined everything.....she's acting like this is some kind of tragedy and then turning around and being all clingy and lovey the next minute. I know she's entitled to feel however she feels, but where do I draw the line? I feel like at the end of the day, if she can't accept it the what's the alternative? I feel so alone.

The alternative could be NOT going on this delusional self-harm journey and destroying your marriage along the way.

You could just accept yourself as a butch lesbian... and not play pretend as a "heterosexual guy" 😒🙄

So many better alternatives, all ignored for one of the worst paths she could choose.