LifestyleDealing with TQ+ nonsense as an artist

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[–]lunarstrain 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

This is a tough one. The way I personally chose to handle it is to go cold turkey with social media, I've been relatively happy with the results but I know this isn't the right choice for everyone. I just couldn't handle how grating it was, interacting with all of those TQ+ people.

There is a middle path, but you'll still have to sacrifice your relationships. You distance yourself from those other artists and turn off all notifications, keeping the people of the internet at arm's length. You'll still benefit from having a place to share your art and using these people to further your career. I don't know if I'd recommend it but I feel it's worth mentioning.

Sorry I can't be more helpful, I hope you have good luck no matter what decision you make.

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I've been doing that but that's rough. Also you can't shut down people too much in fandoms because the whole part that makes it fun is the sharing and interactions. That's why I wanted things to change. But I don't really have lot of options that doesn't include burning down a part of something on my part.

Thank you for commenting regardless, and thank you for the encouragement !

[–]Kai_Decadence 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I just couldn't handle how grating it was, interacting with all of those TQ+ people.

This is really pushing me as well. I try to ignore it all but what's really getting to me is when I'm seeing younger artists in their teens and early 20s saying how they want to have "top surgery" and how they're "non-binary" or "transmen" and it's getting to a point where I can't ignore it. These youths don't understand that "top surgery" is gonna be something they regret (especially when they develop phantom nipple pain). And the way some older TRA artists are blindly encouraging this stuff makes it even more horrifying and all the more reason why I want to come and speak out against this because the common thing you here from those who do "detransition" is that they wished someone would've not affirmed them and was brutally honest about what they were risking instead of blindly affirming them.