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[–]SerpensInferna 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (1 child)

"Romantic attraction is even more mysterious..."

These people are not normal, they are not okay, and they should not be dispensing advise to children.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The split attraction model makes things really confusing. A lot of those alloromantic asexual will hate the truth that romantic attraction originates from sexual attraction.

[–]spanishprofanityim fucking gay 9 insightful - 1 fun9 insightful - 0 fun10 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I'm 13 years old (almost 14 years old as I said in the title) as I've never dated or even had sex in my life

Oof, the alphabet people are not going to be happy about OP equating a dateless/sexless life with asexuality. Also, this kid really needs to get off the internet.

[–]Athelhilda4Questioning 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Probably a controversial opinion, but I don’t think it’s possible to really know what your sexuality is without having had sex. This girl is way too young to really know what she’s is or isn’t attracted to, as she hasn’t even dated or (presumably) kissed anyone before.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I am the worst person to even debate this but from what I've observed people do the thing because of the inner drive - therefore sexual attraction. There is a lot of virgin straight people who never dated or had sex but they are certain they're attracted to the opposite sex and the idea of sleeping with same sex is very off-putting to them.

[–]MoutonelectriqueBland Straight ♀ 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, this is something I always struggled with to understand. While I do think asexuality or extreme low libidos exist, I don't think a 13 year old can know for sure. Most on tumblr were in that age range. Most of them seemed prepuberty and just scared, and wanting to belong to a group.

On the other hand, the current definition of asexuality is confusing as fuck as it turned in an umbrella thing thanks to tumblagh.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Big agree with all that. And current definition of asexuality feels meaningless. Anyone can fit it if they really want to wave this label so bad.

[–]INeedSomeTimeAsexual Ally 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

To answer OP from that Reddit post: yes. You're 14. You're in the middle of your puberty. You can't compare a teen questioning or identifying as gay/bi to being aroace. People really fail to see there is some difference here. In my case I truly began to explore my identity once I hit the age of 18. Before that I knew I was at the intense stage of sexual development so I could start feeling something I never felt at any moment so I never even bothered myself with labels. I was more like only questioning at certain age (when I was 16?).

[–]automoderatorHuman-Exclusionary Radical Overlord[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)


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[–]stunaep 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Most likely a lesbian. Nowadays, homosexual children are adding "ace" to their phases before they come out.