I may as well start. I do not have any bans under my belt except for automated bots on Reddit, so here's a story!

Your forever-loving original mods from Reddit (WavingVoid/me, IPD/Tumbleweed, and Rez/crypkids) saw an opportunity to take over some LGBDTT-like subs from a user who was suspended. We coordinated behind the scenes to request them through the "Reddit Request" sub. Most requests were ignored, but I managed to gain a couple. Maybe because all I really do anymore is mod, I don't know.

I got hold of r/TrueGayMen.

I'm a bisexual woman, I have no business running a gay man's sub. So I brought on a regular and passionate user to be the top mod in charge of things.

That user ruffled some feathers because he was open to bisexual men in strictly male relationships. I understand, but I didn't step in because it wasn't my place, I was only there to stop TRAs and homophobes from ruining things.

The sub eventually got banned for hate, as all "true" LGB subs do since we don't suck the girldick/eat the boipussy. The user I made a mod then came to SaidIt and his first post in our sub said:

It just feels like the conservative dickheads were right. You let the gays get married and you’ll open up Pandora’s box. I hate to admit it but it’s starting to look like they were right.

"The gays". Really?

He was immediately banned, and then tried to defend himself in Modmail saying:

No, it’s is wrong for you guys to ban me. You are jumping to conclusions and being overly sensitive. It sucks what happened to LGBDropthT. The least you could do is not abandon your own principles and create this kind of hostility in an environment where we all desperately need friends and allies.

It wasn’t a pity party. I am sorry because it wasn’t my intention to make anyone feel insulted. It was just a hammy, drama queen moment, that I picked up from hanging around gay people again these last few years. If we knew each other personally or if I was able to properly communicate my tone and sarcasm we wouldn’t be having this conversation right now I assure you.

You guys are good people.

"You guys".

So never really one of us, he was always an outsider. And wasn't even gay himself.