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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It depends on what they mean. If I see an obvious female who is attractive and then learn she identifies as “non-binary,” yea my attraction shrivels up real fast because I am strongly adverse to getting involved with anyone who buys into that toxic way of thinking. Plus it’s often sitting on top of a personality disorder.

But if it’s a self-identified lesbian who acts like identity is the base of their attraction and sex plays no role whatsoever, then yea that makes no sense whatsoever and is not lesbianism. Identity nonsense can remove attraction but it can’t create it.

Does knowing someone’s straight make me lose attraction and interest? Yes, but it’s not like I’m never attracted to straight women. I just tend to be particularly attracted to things I associate with female homosexuality and likewise things I associate with heterosexuality are often turn-offs and/or trigger my self-protective instincts.

[–]Q-Continuum-kin 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

People can have an unattractive personality. Being an enby is just 1 of many turnoffs but the idea that's not going to change a person's physical attractiveness.

Just to clarify, the conversation was about Nick Jonas who is by all observations a straight male who has found a niche where he shows off for gay guys at gay clubs and gets tons of attention for it.

Some gay organizations got big mad over it which doesn't make sense to me. He is giving us eye candy but some people seem to be upset at the idea he shows off but wouldn't sleep with them after. Others were implying a toxic idea that because Nick is attractive to gay men then he must be gay. I think the acquaintance was doing something similar but through 50 layers of mental gymnastics in order to make gender ideology make any degree of sense in that conversation.