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[–]yousaythosethingsFind and Replace "gatekeeping" with "having boundaries" 8 insightful - 1 fun8 insightful - 0 fun9 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

You nailed it. Especially the part about the credibility game with abusers, generally themselves Cluster B or having strong Cluster B traits. Not to mention that dramatic, hostile, black-and-white, all-or-nothing swings in perspectives and engaging in triangulation with third parties (here, going specifically to AGB to announce this apparent epiphany) are also Cluster B behaviors that are evident in a lot of the TRAs turned detransitioners back to TRAs and other iterations of that. This community doesn't really cater to black and white perspectives, and people prone to that way of thinking tend to find better platforms to indulge that elsewhere.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes. Triangulation. The word I wasn't finding yesterday. We hardly ever use that term here but it goes on all the time with TRAs and their recruitment of enablers (rescuers) and demonizing of dissenters.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karpman_drama_triangle

Plus enablers have a vested interest in continuously painting us, the targets of the abuse, as the bad guys, because the enablers are also participating in the abuse. Flying monkeys is another term for them. If they start acknowledging the harm they're doing, then they have to feel the corresponding guilt and shame, too.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/women-autism-spectrum-disorder/202010/are-you-narcissist-s-flying-monkey