I had similar worries and ultimately was surprised that they just didn't pan out... We looked like two gay men and so we were treated as two gay men. I found myself having more "typical" insecurities around him — thinking about him being more buff than me, a better top than me, having a bigger T-dick than me. I only once had the lesbian thought and this was when we were scissoring lmao so we just... Didn't do that again. I think it's easy to get in your head, but in reality it might be easier than you expect to have T4T work (or the problems will just be entirely different from what you're guessing rn haha

How do these people even begin to enjoy sex?! They're so lost in their heads, playing make-believe, sex with a trans person sounds exhausting.

I’m very attracted hot guys including hot trans guys, but on the other hand I don’t like the idea of us both being trans. Idk I would just feel insecure like “are we both delusional ?” I don’t want it to come off like two messy lesbians

Yes you're both delusional. No, you're not a lesbian.