LifestyleDumb stereotypes you unfortunately live up to

submitted by PatsyStoneMaverique from self.LGBDropTheT

Once upon a time, when I was in my teens, I was vegan and vegan cooking was my passion.

My showstopper recipe was my Vegan Lemon Bars. I was so proud of them, and I was constantly tweaking them to make them as lemony and delicious as possible. I was known for them. I would be introduced to new people and they'd say "Oh, PatsyStone, I've heard you make amazing Lemon Bars, I hope I get to try them!" I'd blush and say "Oh, of course 🥰" or something like that.

Fade in, fade out, years later I'm no longer vegan but I am on Reddit browsing around. I start seeing derisive mentions of bisexuals and Lemon Bars. What?

As it turns out, it's some sort of meaningless in-joke with internet bisexuals that just happens to be true for me. What are the odds? Now when I think of my famous Lemon Bars, I cringe a little.

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[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I find it a bit hard to take reddit-spawned memes seriously, because they seem really forced and applicable to many other people... but since they do manage to worm their way around- eventually, I guess they win. As self-fulfilling prophecies?

I like eating lemon bars, if that counts for anything. And sitting funny.

Also- Indecisiveness, perhaps. Is that an older stereotype? Or having no stick-to-itiveness? Really general personality characteristics. There's just not much existing culture and stereotypes there to work with. Maybe that's a good thing though..

[–]reluctant_commenter 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

And sitting funny.

I've said this before, but I'm convinced this is an ADHD thing. Not saying that you personally necessarily have ADHD... but my own experience is, I've met many people IRL who sit in all sorts of weird positions, and all of them were on the ADHD spectrum (myself included, lol). And some of them were LGB, but the majority of them were straight.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique[S] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

A lot of the Bisexual "traits" that Reddit came up with a few years ago are just common personality quirks, especially for wealthy college students.

I like the ADHD theory, though, because now that you've pointed it out I can see how true that is.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I've been thinking about the ADHD some after you suggested it. I'll say that it's.. possible. Maybe some degree of it.

About the sitting: Oftentimes it just feels "off" to sit normally. My legs feel best tucked back somehow, but if I can't do that, then something for my feet to push on is nice, otherwise I can get restless and distracted by it. Not sure how people can just sit there for long stretches of time without feeling the urge to get up. I also lean sideways on the back of chairs a lot to get a certain positioning. Needless to say, I prefer flexible things like swivel chairs or just plain being on the floor(if applicable).

Anyway, it's more pronounced when I'm mentally engaged in something; I also may highlight(digital) text constantly when reading and read better when standing. I'm probably just a 'kinesthetic' thinker though..

[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Ah, I'm sorry! I re-read my reply and realized how prescriptive my wording was. It's only a theory, don't sweat it if that doesn't sound like you!

About the sitting: Oftentimes it just feels "off" to sit normally. My legs feel best tucked back somehow, but if I can't do that, then something for my feet to push on is nice, otherwise I can get restless and distracted by it. Not sure how people can just sit there for long stretches of time without feeling the urge to get up. I also lean sideways on the back of chairs a lot to get a certain positioning. Needless to say, I prefer flexible things like swivel chairs or just plain being on the floor(if applicable).

Anyway, it's more pronounced when I'm mentally engaged in something

Lol, I have the exact same experience.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Oh, don't need to apologize; Really. It didn't sound at all prescriptive to me. You just gave your honest thoughts in general. It was simply an possibility which hadn't really occurred to me before, so I was kinda wondering aloud about it. Pay it no mind.

Lol, I have the exact same experience.

It's annoying, no? I always figured I could kill these behavioral "ticks" pre-emptively with exercise or something, but I never could stick to any exercise routine long enough to know for sure if it works 🤷🏻‍♂️