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[–][deleted] 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

safe

BDSM

Going to need them to pick one or the other. I think I know which one wins out in the end.

The one that leads to this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rough_sex_murder_defense

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth 1 insightful - 3 fun1 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 3 fun -  (2 children)

It's more than that, heterosexual sex in general is inherently harmful in part (but only in part, there's more reasons too) because of the strength gap, if I had my way it'd be outlawed alongside the rough sex murder defense for the horribly dangerous backwards practice that it is. And so I don't get banished as a lunatic for saying so, I'm not saying this as a radical feminist, I mostly find radical feminists to be quite miserable people. Rather, I'm simply stating my understanding of the world as a bisexual woman in a very happy and supportive long-distance relationship with a man.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

heterosexual sex in general is inherently harmful in part (but only in part, there's more reasons too) because of the strength gap, if I had my way it'd be outlawed alongside the rough sex murder defense for the horribly dangerous backwards practice that it is

Ummm, I'm not comfortable with any sex act between two consenting adults being regulated or outlawed. Those types of laws are always weaponized against same-sex attracted people in the end.

Also how would we outlaw hetero sex.... that becomes basically a forced eugenics movement on a massive scale??

I'm not saying this as a radical feminist, I mostly find radical feminists to be quite miserable people.

I'm a rad fem but I do notice many of the bisexual/heterosexual ones with a history of surviving male violence/abuse can veer from legit talk of female seperatism and safe spaces into this weird "all men are evil trash/kill all men/het sex is evil and abusive ALWAYS" vibe and tbh that's what your comment sounds like. I don't want female-only spaces because I hate men or heterosexuality, I want female-only spaces because I love women and women and girls deserve spaces away from male violence.

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I've never been abused by a man (though I have been psychologically abused by my mother when I was growing up), and I don't hate men. I just from observation on an intellectual level don't believe that something with such a great degree of power imbalance, nor something so inherently harmful, can be consented to.