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[–]CancelPowerSuper Bi Male 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

This sub was always fairly toxic. Most of the posts consist of mocking mentally ill teenagers and always have. Regular users have repeatedly expressed no interest in political organizing, which is the intended purpose of the sub and the reason our remaining mods volunteered their time and IT expertise.

I'm going to say something about this. I'm a relatively new member, I only joined this forum 3 months ago and although most posts have been great with little to no actual hatred, I noticed that there are a LOT of posts about harmless things. Like, why the hell are there posts about lonely transwomen and transmen talking about their future boyfriends/girlfriends? That's just plain weird. I repeatedly see them here and I just...what the hell? Now, I hate transgenderism and I'm always against it, but I don't exactly hate transgenders and I just don't hate on them for no reason, I posted a bunch of stuff here but they were actual gross things from the trans community like rape, abuse, sexism, delusions...etc not things about "I want my boyfriend to be gentle and talk sweet to me blah blah blah!!" Who cares if no man talks like that? Why are we posting harmless and innocent things?

Just the last week, there was a post about a woman suffering from gender dysphoria lashing out at her own vagina, someone shared it here and some people accused her of "internal misogyny"?? and "encouraging women to hate their genitals"? What the fuck? Why are we making up things? It was just one single harmless vent post and she didn't encourage anyone to hate anything, it's just gender dysphoria. People with genuine gender dysphoria and mental breakdowns should be sympathized with, not mocked and posted here.

2 months ago, there was a venting post about a man who decided to "transition" and he was upset that his girlfriend decided to leave him because of it. It was posted here and some people already accused him of being "controlling" and things like that even though he explained that he understands her decision and he just wanted to vent about it on the internet because...duh, anyone would be upset if their SO leaves them! There was no red flag in his post and yet people mocked and insulted him here. This is just...no, just no! We shouldn't post things just because whoever made them is transgender, we should post things ABOUT transgenders. Normal things shouldn't be mocked.

I think this forum is overall chill and cool, I don't see misandry or misogyny or anything like this, heck I barely see any 4chan-level of hatred against transgenders (like slurs and death threats and stuff) no matter how shitty they are but posts like these, things like this piss me off tbh. I really hope people here stop doing it, it only gives a bad picture about the place.

[–]PatsyStoneMaverique 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

no matter how shitty they are but posts like these, things like this piss me off tbh. I really hope people here stop doing it, it only gives a bad picture about the place.

They're not going to, it's the main reason the regulars are here mostly. There are a few very interesting and kind people here who are always a joy to talk to... and a never-ending stream of assholes. I attempted to steer people away (sometimes shock people away) from pettiness and naval-gazing and got told to fuck off (basically.)

I had the dark thought one day that there may be people who are harvesting the nasty comments we make about these kids and sharing them with these same kids and I got alarmed.

I tried for a while to make more compassionate and empathetic posts, and to try to persuade other people to do so, but that got to be too much of an effort.

There are other, better, communities. Unfortunately I wish one existed that catered to bisexuals but there isn't. We should be used to that, though.

[–]CancelPowerSuper Bi Male 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yeah, sadly, I agree with you. I honestly think that the mod (Tumbleweedfireflies) is great and has done an amazing job moderating especially just by herself, and many posters here are pretty cool from my experience of 3 months being off-and-on here but there is also a significant amount of pettiness and unreasonable hatred here, it just makes us look so desperate. I'm seriously considering unsubscribing out of here, I don't really like to associate with communities like this tbh.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If all the rational and compassionate users unsubscribe, we'll be left with only assholes representing us. Stay and add more content that you want to see!!

Truelesbians on reddit was a shitshow at the start, basically just lesbians venting about how tired of trans shit we were and screaming about how happy they were to be away from the sausage fest that is /actual(not)lesbians. But we built it into something beautiful before the ban! That wouldn't have happened if everyone unsubbed because they were tired of the hate posts, instead women stepped up and posted more of the content they wanted to see and we became a great space for lesbians to share our struggles and successes with dating, relationships and love and life in general!! I want this space to be that for the wider LGB community too.