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[–]book_hoarder 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

There is a difference between a woman who "has sex with men" (present tense) and a woman who "has had sex with men" (past tense). Most people here would agree with you that the former is not a lesbian (in most cases), but the latter potentially is.

I think everyone commenting on this just wants to take me out of context

Or perhaps you aren't stating your grievances very clearly? You posted those two comments in your thread about lesbophobia on Ovarit and I, like everyone else, was left scratching my head over what was so 'phobic about it.

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    [–]book_hoarder 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

    What I read in that screenshot was one woman talking about how some lesbians might be able to tolerate sex with men by dissociating from it (which is actually a common trauma response...), and another woman talking about how she never wanted to have sex with her boyfriend in the past, but didn't think she was a lesbian because she was "able to grin and bear it." None of that sounds like they were "fine with having sex with men." It sounds like they were forcing themselves to have sex they didn't want because they were socially conditioned to believe that they should. Which is heartbreaking.