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[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (5 children)

I mean, if you want to redefine yourself just because some women who call themselves lesbians don't feel exactly the same way you do, suit yourself.

Well it's constantly happening every day lesbians saying they have sex with men, even here people are supporting it. So yeah, lesbian means bi now, I'm not bi.

I've been out as a lesbian for the past 17 years, and I promise you, no one has showed up to my house and tried to shove a dick down my throat just because a handful of bisexual women have appropriated the label.

I never said that. Just lesbian has lost it meaning, and it just means bisexual now. I think everyone commenting on this just wants to take me out of context. Also, it's not just a handful of bi women, it's cute you think that tho. I also like that you agree these are bi women, k.

[–]book_hoarder 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

There is a difference between a woman who "has sex with men" (present tense) and a woman who "has had sex with men" (past tense). Most people here would agree with you that the former is not a lesbian (in most cases), but the latter potentially is.

I think everyone commenting on this just wants to take me out of context

Or perhaps you aren't stating your grievances very clearly? You posted those two comments in your thread about lesbophobia on Ovarit and I, like everyone else, was left scratching my head over what was so 'phobic about it.

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Or perhaps you aren't stating your grievances very clearly? You posted those two comments in your thread about lesbophobia on Ovarit and I, like everyone else, was left scratching my head over what was so 'phobic about it.

It was a screenshot of a Ovarit user saying some lesbians are fine with having sex with men. Wtf. You guys are either so deep in the woke homophobia, or you aren't exclusively same-sex attracted. I guess you just don't like me calling that bs out because you all agree with it.

[–]book_hoarder 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

What I read in that screenshot was one woman talking about how some lesbians might be able to tolerate sex with men by dissociating from it (which is actually a common trauma response...), and another woman talking about how she never wanted to have sex with her boyfriend in the past, but didn't think she was a lesbian because she was "able to grin and bear it." None of that sounds like they were "fine with having sex with men." It sounds like they were forcing themselves to have sex they didn't want because they were socially conditioned to believe that they should. Which is heartbreaking.

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The first woman was saying there are two types of lesbians, they weren't talking about social conditioning they were stating some lesbians are ok with having sex with men, that what she wrote. If she was talking about what your projecting she wouldve said that, not that there is a "type of lesbian." The other one admitted she was wrong later, just saw that right now, so I'll leave her out.

The first one said there's a distinction and then "lesbians who aren't repulsed by sex with men." You put that in her mouth. Never said anything about pressure or being made to. Just that some lesbians are fine having sex with men. Which to me is lesbophobic, but people here say it's true so

I wonder why everyone commenting about this keeps moving the goal post btw. I've stayed by position but everyone keeps saying I said other things or talking about things that weren't what the post was about. It wasn't

  1. About societal pressure
  2. Experimenting
  3. Liking dick

It was about how there isn't two types of lesbians, that being one that is fine with sleeping with men. You and huffle made it about those things, because idk why insecure about sleeping with men?