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[–]MyLongestJourney 12 insightful - 2 fun12 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 2 fun -  (4 children)

I do not see any lesbophobia and I belong to the lesbian-repulsed-by-dick category. Care to explain why is it lesbophobic to point out that some lesbians are not repulsed by dick ,it just does nothing for them sexually?

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

The two commenters said lesbians can be ok with sleeping with men, which no, lesbians aren't ok with sleeping with men. All lesbians are not attracted to men. It's simple. The fact I have to type this out twice in the span of a couple of minutes shows me this is a bigger problem that I originally thought.

[–]hufflepuff-poet 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think part of the problem is for women, especially lesbians, it can be hard to understand what attraction is until you've felt it and named it in your own body. Otherwise it's easy to think you're just not attracted to these men but could be "attracted to/tolerate" some hypothetical man. For some people, attraction can't be understood until it's lived in the body with another person. I think alot of lesbians aren't 100% confident in their sexuality until they've been with a woman and finally understand that "this is what attraction is and how it feels in my body".

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman[S] 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

It just sounds like those are bisexuals again. This just reminds me of homophobes telling lesbians to sleep with both men and women to be a 100% sure. Even if they never had a crush on a woman, the lack of attraction, being uninterested, and the discomfort with men should be present. If they've been interested, attracted, and/or comfortable dating and sleeping with men, they're bi, but they may prefer women.

[–]Athelhilda4Questioning 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

You can have sex with people you aren’t sexually attracted to. From personal experience, I can tell you that it is a horrible experience for both participants, but it can and does happen. I’ve noticed that men previously married to women are accepted as having always been gay, but never women.