Not sure if I view this as Lesbophobia. I've had a few lesbian friends irl express similar sentiments to femlez34-- that they could "grin and bear kissing/sex/intimacy" with a man or that they'd be willing to suck dick if they were drunk (this struck me as some weird self-harm kind of thing tbh 🥴🤯😒), but they're not actually attracted to him. I've always thought it was weird but most of my friends who expressed those feelings were younger lesbians in their early 20s, still figuring out that it's ok to be a woman who wants nothing to do with men sexually or romantically and it's ok to only desire women and to pursue those desires. I see it as a response to the overwhelming expectations that women must want a man, even lesbians. Now that I've typed this out, I guess it is Lesbophobia, internalized.

I personally have never been able to relate to this mindset because for me, I realized I didn't enjoy being with men before I was able to accept that I did desire women. I never felt right being w men but I thought it was something wrong w me and I had to get over it. But the more I tried, the worse I felt and the more dissociated I felt til I just stopped having sex/dating at all for a few years cus it made me feel so disgusting being with men. I never really let myself acknowledge my attraction to women because I thought it was wrong and weird and made me feel like a creep around other women. Once I kissed a woman and especially after I had sex with a woman, there was no going back. I could never be with a man, now that I know what sex and intimacy feels like when I'm with a person of the right sex, ie a woman. Even with women I'm not in love with, the sex is amazing and my body is responsive and awake and glad to be alive, not numb and tense and disgusted.