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[–][deleted] 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Yes, sometimes the L and the G are separate and we don't freak out about it. There's not a bunch of lesbians protesting gay bath houses for not letting us in for example. Just like gay men aren't lining up to demand entry into lesbian specific groups. Unlike the TQ+ who can't stand to not be invited to every single thing to ever exist. Sometimes places just aren't meant for you.

[–]PenseePansyBio-Sex or Bust 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

And each of LGB's letters need to be separate sometimes! That is, we've got to have spaces which are reserved for a single sexual orientation-- lesbian-only, gay men-only, bi people-only. To address those things that aren't applicable to the other letters. It's just that this should still be done within LGB-- like, as a subgroup thereof. The same way that, within any relationship, each person needs their "alone time", you know? And their own group of friends. But this doesn't keep you from being part of a couple. In fact, it's probably what enables you to be. Healthy boundaries keep the relationship strong. If you ALWAYS have to do EVERYTHING together... that's probably not a good sign.