The organization is led primarily by a bisexual man and a woman. I'm not sure if the woman is LGB; she just kept the group focused and didn't say much about herself. They both seemed friendly and welcoming. All around chill.
They of course, had me and the other person who wasn't sure if they were trans or not to introduce ourselves. They asked about my pronouns and the name I go by besides my birthname. When I just said she/her and a shortened form of my name because it's a longer name, the group went quiet. I broke the silence with a heterophobic joke and talked about my previous work. I believe I am the only one there who does not have a strange relationship with gender identity. They focused on the other person and helped them try out a different name.
So far, the group has about three trans"women." I say “maybe” because one is still trying to figure it out. The only trans"woman" who showed “her” face appears to be in their late 30s; I immediately clocked “her” because “she” had a 5 o'clock shadow, but credit where credit is due- “she” had a very passable voice; the other two I can't tell how old they are because they didn't show their faces or talk much in the video chat. The 30-year-old trans"woman" was friends with the gay man NB. The trans"woman" mostly just talked about a movie, and had some inside jokes with them. Apparently the NB gay man sent “her” the Homophobic Dog or Not Too Fond Of Gay People meme, and “she” had no idea what it meant.
The NB gay man uses any pronouns, and he reminds me of James Charles. Not in a predator way, just looks like him and dresses like him. He wouldn't stop talking the whole time, didn't seem to think before he spoke, just blurted out whatever came to mind. He kept saying drag queen and gay Twitter lingo like a parrot.
The other "woman" in the group seems to be younger than me (I'm 23)*. She is a genderfluid he/they, she has signed up for testosterone, and is planning on getting her breast removed in the future. She talked about chickening out on her testosterone appointment (even showed the papers) because her gender fluctuates. The 30 year old trans"woman" said she should go for it, and she would not regret it, because “she” didn’t. NB chick then talked about how her father doesn't like trans people, which she doesn't get why because he let her do boy activities when she was young. Her mother doesn't understand how she can be a he/they (a man and neither man or woman), and the kicker is that her mother is a nurse, but NB chick claims she knows more about this than she does, despite the fact that her mother is a medical professional. I couldn't help myself and after she stopped talking I suggested that she wait a little longer before doing anything, because if she's still wondering, she hasn't figured it out yet, and it's too early. Bi guy said “that would be best.” NB chick just shrugged and said she'd think about it.
The NBs struggles are just their parents not getting it. The 30 year old trans”woman” again didn’t talk much about themselves. The two others didn’t speak much at all, and when one of them did they spoke so quietly I didn’t understand a lot of it. One of them said something about their grandparents.
The two NBs are from extremely wealthy families, which is very rare given that I live in one of the poorest states in the country and in the poorest city within the state. I kept looking at the background of the James Charles look alike and was stunned, a modern styled chandelier, massive room, expensive furniture, and clothes, the works. His family is very influential; the ones where I live own several businesses, and the rest of his family works in government and/or politics in other states. The NB chick had her own green screen background, and both of her parents have good jobs. She does digital art, but I don't believe she works. She was able to get an appointment at a health center very quickly. The typical waiting period if you don't have money here is two years at best, because we don't have many hospitals, and the health care system here is abysmal. I've been in the medical system here because I suffer from insomnia and it took me the majority of my high school years to get my foot in the door. This has gotten worse since the pandemic, all of the health centers are full, but all she needs to do is sign her papers. So yeah, very rich.
There are others but they didn’t show up at my first call. We’ll be having another meeting next week, so stay tuned. I’m surprised that this much wokeness is even here where I live. My state has been largely unaffected by the gender wars.
So far that’s all. Besides the 30 year old, they seem to be ok, just confused. Annoying at times, but they aren’t awful people.
Even though the James Charles look alike can be irritating he doesn’t seem to be an asshole. I know I have come across as negative in this post but I’m just giving some information that stood out from an over hour long meeting.
*Edit: She's actually two years older than me.