Women's IssuesMan whines like a little brat because his wife doesn’t want him to transition during her pregnancy. states “i want to dissociate through her whole pregnancy until i can have my estrogen”

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[–]Finnegan7921 19 insightful - 1 fun19 insightful - 0 fun20 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

That woman should have bailed the fuck out once he displayed his mental illness but she was probably all aboard the woke express and thought it would be wonderful to have a trans spouse. Now reality has set in for her like a brick to the face that she is hitched to and bound for life by a kid to a narcissist who whines about his "needs". Good luck with that lady, you're gonna need it.

[–]shveya 15 insightful - 4 fun15 insightful - 3 fun16 insightful - 4 fun -  (1 child)

Yet siring children with his semen didn't give him dYsPhOrIa.

[–]serf_n_terfStraight Ally - Surf’s up! 🏄‍♀️ 5 insightful - 2 fun5 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Yep. It’s a fetish.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 15 insightful - 2 fun15 insightful - 1 fun16 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

I have a history of thinking about killing myself

Well that sounds like the sort of person you’d want to marry and have a child with. Just wait until that poor foolish woman starts breastfeeding. Sorry, chest feeding…

[–]Femaleisnthateful 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So disgusted by these people making the pregnant wife the problem. Just shows you can never be 'supportive' enough unless you completely subserviate your own needs.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 15 insightful - 1 fun15 insightful - 0 fun16 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

she was initially very affirming and even excited about my transition.

why? what woman whats a cross dressing husband with boobs?

All the femme stuff I had been trying out up to this point now seems recast as pathetic attempts at cross-dressing in a disgusting male testosterone body

This seems like he he's not classically dysphoric but has serious issues with what it means to be male/manhood

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I tried to articulate what the dysphoria feels like and her response was "that sounds really hard. have you talked about this with your therapist." Of course I have, but my trans affirming therapist tells me it's my transition and I should be able to define what it looks like for myself

I just can't see the source of the problem here...

At best, I want to dissociate through her whole pregnancy until I can have my estrogen. I don't even want to wear the bits of feminine clothing I have or bother shaving my face right now.

Is your dysphoria because her pregnancy brings into stark relief what only an actual woman is able to do? Independent of gender expression like hair style and types of clothing?

I want to dissociate through her whole pregnancy

You sound like you're gonna be very helpful to a pregnant woman indeed. Because this is exactly what she needs.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (7 children)

There's an "at best" at the beginning of the sentence quoted in the title and some fairly important surrounding context. He isn't as terminally narcissistic as those omissions make him seem. Still self-absorbed and primarily self-focused, however.

Either way, it's a terrible idea to have a baby with this going on. That's who neither of these two seem to be thinking about—the future kid. It's already gambling with another's life to have kids at all, much less also gambling that you have no idea how you are going to be as a parent because you're doing experiments on yourself at the same time.

[–]NutterButterFlutterStill waving into the void 12 insightful - 1 fun12 insightful - 0 fun13 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I noticed that too, at first he starts out talking about both his wife and himself, and then devolves into only what he thinks and needs. After his wife recently said she wants him to wait until after the baby is born, it's all him-him-him and there's nothing about why she said that or what her feelings are.

Saw this at the end too:

I really thought we could do this and have a happy half-trans lesbian family, but now we're in the middle of it, I'm miserable

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 13 insightful - 1 fun13 insightful - 0 fun14 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

This is where the childlike emotional maturity really becomes clear—the total lack of any ability to imagine how the future is going to go based on the choices they make today. "I really thought I could jam my psychological struggles into the creation of a healthy family and it would all work out the way I want it to." If you are still a kid yourself, DON'T BREED.

The wife is 50% culpable here for agreeing to this. But we can safely assume that on some level she agreed under duress. But still even before you are a parent it's your job to protect your (future) kids from obvious sources of potential harm. A muddle-brained parent is at the top of the list of risk factors. And I'd say they both are, considering they went ahead with the pregnancy.

[–]MarkJeffersonTight defenses and we draw the line 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

So many transing susceptible people are very inwardly focused. No wonder parents are advised to saddle their ROGD kids with some responsibility; Something external to care for and attend to in order to get them out of navel gazing. And I heard it kinda works for these types of trans. It can explain why most dysphoria tends to go away by adulthood. Increased responsibility, ambitions, and independence gives people something to balance out the hyper focus on oneself.

Of course, the flip side of it exists too, in which one can focus on too much of what other people think about their natural behavior, and that's why they trans. They're always thinking of how they can change themselves to satisfy the needs and desires of other people. And if they just thought of what they themselves wanted for once, they would be dandy. It seems like a nice balance between "selfishness" and "selflessness" is ideal.

[–]verystablegenius[S] 7 insightful - 3 fun7 insightful - 2 fun8 insightful - 3 fun -  (3 children)

I disagree, the entire post makes him seem terminally narcissistic.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I think you pumped up your portrayal of him in that post title to make that claim stick harder than it does upon reading his actual words. He might very well be, but if we don't want to be painted as people who exaggerate and sensationalize then we have to be a little more careful about how we discuss things here than you were with this post.

[–]JulienMayfair 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

This is someone who has no business parenting a child, which that poor mother is going to find out.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Yes, now she's going to have two children instead of just the one she married.

[–]SerpensInferna 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I swear that I know these people. Well, probably not, but my upstairs neighbors are newly pregnant. The husband is a nerdy, paunchy gamer that works in IT and has noticeably been growing his hair out, painting his nails, and wearing skirts, but with his wife starting to show he suddenly has cut his hair short and gone back to traditionally masculine clothing.

Either that or every single one of these AGPs is just a ridiculous stereotype.

[–]automoderatorHuman-Exclusionary Radical Overlord[M] 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

RIP Snappy, I AM THE NEW GOD!

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