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[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 10 insightful - 1 fun10 insightful - 0 fun11 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Tragicomically, someone on social media who ID'ed as radfem called me a "fraud" the other day and said my "card should be revoked" because I refuted (with sworn testimony from the UK trial) some falsehoods she was spewing about Amber Heard being a little innocent angel.

I wasn't discussing feminism or womanhood, though. So I found it really interesting that she thought I would want whatever "card" she was hawking in the first place. One does not need the secret handshake and the hand-drawn map to the club treehouse in order to care about truth and justice. And weirdly enough I still have all my XX chromosomes even though she said mean things to me...so I think I'll be all right.

Of course, that was projection, because here's a woman who does not care about truth and justice trying to hold a well-exposed con artist up as a feminist standard-bearer and she's obviously having some buyer's remorse, which she copes with by what? Shooting the messenger.

They really do seem to think that picking a big stick up off the ground and waving it wildly at people counts as credibility. Or to put that another way, radfems probably have their own TRA equivalent subset of bullying opportunists. They are not all that way, but I get tired of rolling the dice and wondering which kind I'm going to get so I seldom choose interaction.

But I've tussled with a few of them in the last couple of weeks because they are so very, very, very determined to cling to the lie that AH is their angelic spokesperson. You have to work really hard at denial to maintain that position at this point. But it wouldn't be the first time I've run into the radfem brick wall of denial. So there's nothing new to see here.

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (3 children)

I would have thought she was a libfem for uncritically supporting AH. Very hard to keep track of the waves of feminism sometimes.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

Yeah I don't try very hard. Easier to just evaluate someone's beliefs and assertions as they are than from within whatever ideological framework they claim to be inhabiting—people seldom strictly follow their own ideologies consistently.

There are a ton of libfems defending AH too but there's definitely some hand-wringing going on in places like Ovarit about the optics of AH being seen as she is / this way (accurately?). (And of course there are plenty who actually believe her, still.) They seem more concerned about how she makes them look than they are about how important it is that this type of abuse be documented and talked about openly.

Which makes me wonder how many of them are similarly abusive or have falsely accused people themselves. Why be so worried about one of these being finally, properly outed? I think it's great because now when I try to describe some of my experiences, AH can stand in as a perfect example. It's a damned relief.

And I'm not a Depp fan. I haven't really paid attention to him, but this is just such a great teaching moment for so many survivors. I know there's a risk among the simple-minded that more of us won't be believed, but damn, that was already a problem because these are false accusers. (!) Now how they operate is much more out in the open with an excellent case study. What's not to like, really? /rhetorical

[–]xanditAGAB (Assigned Gay at Birth) 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

AH shouldn't tear down your movement unless you say things like believe all women as if a woman would never say false stuff.

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Indeed. The only reason they have to worry is that she proves that their absurd rule / mantra is false, by being a very blatant exception.