HomophobiaHow Ovarit feels about homosexual parenthood

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[–]reluctant_commenter 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (2 children)

I wonder if this would even out if heterosexual couples had to go through the same efforts to have a kid.

It's a good question. But because of the nature of same sex attraction, in the long run we'll still probably still see higher values for LGB couples anyway just because of the barriers to access filtering out some people who might've accidentally had kids (and maybe resented them, not had the resources to parent them well, etc.) had they been in an opposite sex relationship.

That said, still a good study to reference, for same purpose that stunaep used it used it for.

Incidentally, the title of that includes "parent-reported."

This is an undervalued observation in psychology research. Parent-report data can be really insightful, but in some contexts it can be incredibly biased. Really depends on what you're asking the parents... such as, "Are your kids abused at home?" Worth pointing out, for sure!

[–]wafflegaffWoman. SuperBi. 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Really depends on what you're asking the parents... such as, "Are your kids abused at home?"

You found the nail and hit it with a sledgehammer. As someone who, as a child, listened to one of my parents (the abuser) lie to concerned adults who called to ask about my wellbeing, yeah, "parent-reported" isn't something I would take very seriously. Always fun listening to that parent shine them on over the phone, hang up and then go back to abusing me. Chilling AF. (This is also likely why I was informed by said parent that I was was "an embarrassment"—the distress I expressed at school was noteworthy to observers.)

[–]reluctant_commenter 1 insightful - 1 fun1 insightful - 0 fun2 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

I'm so, so sorry that happened to you. You deserved better than that. That is incredibly chilling behavior to witness. Unfortunately, I think the prevalence of situations like that are really underreported... like, people in social work and researchers know it happens, but are probably still way underestimating it. I think many of them just don't realize how manipulative people can really be, and therefore take the parents' claims of good intentions at face value.

Hope you've been able to recover from that messed-up situation. Hurts my heart to know that stuff like that has happened to you, knowing how freaking awesome you are.