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[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman 17 insightful - 1 fun17 insightful - 0 fun18 insightful - 1 fun -  (11 children)

I looked through her Tiktok, she says she's Jewish but also her parents are Evangelical Christians. So I guess she converted to Judaism? But she also doesn't like religion and is not religious.

Went from straight to lesbian to aro/ace pansexual nonbinary queer. Always uses words like "became" and "labels" when talking about sexual orientation, so probably just a weird straight girl.

She has three eating disorders.

Diagnosed with 5 mental disorders

Everyone in her family hates her (supposedly)

Has ADHD, abuses her ADHD medication, takes all four of them at once which can fuck you up.

She kins Hannibal Lecter. Has a fixation on him killing and mutilating his victims. Her friends have asked her to calm down on the Hannibal obsession.

Said she was homophobic before

She gets into fights with everyone.

Idk how old she is, but I feel bad for her putting her cringy phase online for everyone to see. Hope she gets some actual help someday.

[–]ChunkeeguyTeam T*RF Fuck Yeah 11 insightful - 1 fun11 insightful - 0 fun12 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

So a whole bunch of personality disorders have come together to create a perfect storm identity rooted in mental illness. Sums up the QT+ beautifully. Social media is doing so much damage to already fragile minds.

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman 7 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 0 fun8 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

The only sliver of hope was that she doesn't (so far) want to go through any medical transition. She's made several videos on having ED and having hyper-fixation, just hasn't made the connection yet

[–]julesburm1891 6 insightful - 1 fun6 insightful - 0 fun7 insightful - 1 fun -  (4 children)

Hey, I’m a lady who was raised as a Christian and is in the process of converting to Judaism. One thing I’ve noticed is that most people who this path are either people with very sincere beliefs or are marrying a Jew. It’s made a little more complicated by Judaism being both a religion and a people. Once you convert, you are considered Jewish both religiously and culturally. If you decide the religion part isn’t for you down the road, you’re still considered Jewish. (It should go without saying, but considering the entire history of pograms and the Holocaust, it’s an extra-serious decision you shouldn’t flippantly make unless you honestly intend to practice Judaism for the rest of your life.)

There are people who seem to be doing this for less genuine reasons though. I’ve come across people who seem to be into it because they want to belong to a religious community without actually believing in anything or changing their lives. (If someone is born into a Jewish family and grows up to be an atheist a lot of liberal congregations will still accept them. The line is fuzzier there because the history of persecution leaves people not wanting to turn away Jews by birth. Obviously, this is a very different scenario than people “converting” to have community with neither faith nor action.)

And then there are people who seem to be doing it because they think being Jewish is another tag they can add onto their bio and claim that they’re oppressed because of it. (Don’t even get me started about how utterly ridiculous it is for people who aren’t Jewish by birth to pretend we experience anti-Semitism outside of worrying about violence when we attend synagogue.) There’s no sincere interest or belief. It just the narcissistic label game with those people.

If I had to guess, she probably falls into the latter category and may or may not have actually converted. Or, maybe she just makes it all up as she goes. Anyways, sorry for the essay.

[–]lunarstrain 4 insightful - 1 fun4 insightful - 0 fun5 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Just curious, is there a possibility that she's jewish through ancestry? Like, one of her grandparents was religiously and ethnically jewish and then converted to christianity for their spouse? Not sure if that's a thing that happens at all.

[–]julesburm1891 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

Judaism follows matrilineal descent. If her mother is Jewish, she could also be considered Jewish. It’s a possibility. However, it’s not super common. Reform Judaism (most of American Jewry) is chill with interfaith marriages. Most people either keep their faith or the non-Jewish spouse converts. (There’s some pressure not to convert out just for marriage because of all the attempts to decimate Jewish existence.)

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

No worries. It was an interesting read. To my knowledge I don't have any Jewish ancestry, and I was raised by non-religious parents, I'm an ex-atheist but converted to Catholicism in 2017, so what I know about Judaism is from research and scripture. But being an outsider looking in isn't the same as being Jewish, so I didn't want to make any statements on her, other than that inconsistency. I'm not sure if she went through any process of conversion, but then again I am not looking through her entire Tiktok she has posted consistently for years (kind of impressive tbh). What I've seen was her saying she has Christian parents a family, so I guess she converted since I know that the Jewish lineage is passed on through the mother, but then she made videos on hating religion so 🤷‍♀️she made videos on Anti-Semitism, but in another she talks about making offensive Jewish jokes and then getting mad at her friends for laughing at them lol

[–]julesburm1891 2 insightful - 2 fun2 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

You converted to Catholicism after growing up non-religious? That sounds like a really interesting journey.

This girl sounds like a train wreck.

[–][deleted] 5 insightful - 1 fun5 insightful - 0 fun6 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Imma guess "bisexual and severely repressed by conservative family". She's trying on all the labels, even "bad" ones, since she's not allowed to just be herself. She has to fit their mold and is rebelling. She's over-compensating with each label because that's the only way she gets seen and acknowledged.

What she's going through is normal and silly and ridiculous growing up, we all did it in our own ways. I also feel bad that her struggle is memorialized online. She is unlikely to be able to escape the stigma as she progresses into adulthood because it's all easily Google-able. This sort of cringe will follow her because the internet doesn't forget.

[–]jay-dayGold Star Gay Woman 6 insightful - 2 fun6 insightful - 1 fun7 insightful - 2 fun -  (0 children)

Honestly who knows at this point. She was in high school (maybe still is?) at most points, and she has several LGBT flags in the background, so by my guess her parents bought them for her. The "homophobia" from what I see on some of the vids is her parents not getting what nb, asexual, pansexual, queer is. It's hard to tell if she is actually having difficulty with hateful parents, because as I brought up with Jules she does things like make offensive Jewish jokes and then gets mad at her friends for laughing at them.

[–]jjdub7TERF (Trans Exterminating Reactionary Fascist) 3 insightful - 1 fun3 insightful - 0 fun4 insightful - 1 fun -  (1 child)

Why is Judaism grossly over represented in QT activism?

[–]CleverFoolOfEarth[S] 2 insightful - 1 fun2 insightful - 0 fun3 insightful - 1 fun -  (0 children)

If I had to guess, I'd say it might have something to do with the fact that New Yorkers are overrepresented in QT activism. But unless that's it, couldn't tell ya.